Honestly, to me, as a human being, anyone would care for death. What both militaries want or politicians in this case want, are two different things. What people want is another. If people are letting your politicians overwrite your common sense, and human feelings, than it the people's fault to not correct them. How many Pakistanis, out of 200 million, you think sit down day and night and think about India? How many Indians, out of 1 Billion Indians, day and night, think about Pakistan and how to make it suffer? Honestly, the answer is almost none to less than 1%. People are people and they have work, family stress, jobs, wives, sick family members, kids schools and all. No one in today's modern world has that much time. So making such a big assumption about no one cares about human lives is very wrong. And I am just giving you a third party's perspective, I don't have any vested interest in India or Pakistan. I just know and like this region for its rich culture and history and people's intellect.
I personally appreciate how much hard work the Indian nation has done. I could tell you a LOT about my and others experience with India as a country and as an industry. What you guys did in 20 years to grow your country, is outright excellent work and a great job well done. But on the other hand, I am ALSO seeing these extremist elements in your society, that are not good for India as a country, and India as a regional power. More than anything, it'll disturb immediate peace within your own and your neighbor's house. Why would you want to live in pain and fear???
If you think the "other side" doesn't care about death in India, that's own feelings and you are entitled to those. However, remember that you are a human being too and just like everyone, you may have biases too. So, in this case, whether you think they don't care or they do, you should as a bigger person, just for your own self, show the heart and offer peace. You might be surprised how your own experience might change based on the response from the other side. Worst case, you can ALWAYS tell yourself that hey, I personally tried. The other side is to dumb to focus on having a better life with its neighbors. Chances are, you won't be disappointed.