Judgemental nothing, I base my replies on factual statements. You accuse me of being judgemental yet you're the only one here making judgmental statements. You referred to all men as partaking in this kind of behavior, when the reality of the situation is that this couldn't be father from the truth. As far as the term "idiot" being a hate comment. what do you think? If I called you an "idiot" for your comments, would you take that as a compliment? Oh, but as you say, "I wasn't directing it at you" So in your mind it is OK to make disparaging remarks as long as it doesn't target out a single person.