Stealth is optimized to work in a BVR dominated environment(provided the adversary has no modern ESM,IRST,VHF/UHF based GCI/early warning),the wars you have mentioned proved BVR combat does not make majority of the kills(approximately only 5 kills were BVR in the gulf and the rest of AMRAAM,Aim-7 engagements were within visual range and most from the rear and all that against an incompetent air force).
BVR combat has not proved to be very reliable and the advantage if any only stays till "merge" and then the IFF problem sinks in and makes the situation worse.Modern RWR's which can detect,locate LPI radars can be relatively easy to design than LPI radars and thus if you keep your radars on you are no more stealthy but if you switch it off then BVR aint possible.
The excercises such as red flag are conducted with assumed Pk of missiles which is astonishingly high,hell even the tests carried out on the BVR missiles aren't realistic in terms of target maneuvering and electronic clutter.
The excercises feather duster,AIMVAL/ACEVAL, red flag proved that air national guards flying inferior planes can take out superior planes,offbore sight missiles are not needed,smaller agile aircraft are still relevant against expensive ones.
Assumptions on certain technology proved wrong in vietnam,kosovo,gulf and it will repeat again and the ones who dont learn from the past are doomed.
Go read about valkyrie bomber, F-X , MBT-70 ,Crusader, future combat systems, airborne laser,F-111,comanche,cheyenne,CG(X),LCS,Expeditionary Fighting Vehicle,F-35.
When you are done lets talk and may be then you will troll less.