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Talon
I appreciate what you are saying but I beg to differ! I may not be a psychiatrist nor a psychologist! However, suicide now a days is something people try use as a quick ticket out without trying!
Although I can understand your point of view but I have to say it's very simplistic, watered down, and not really justice to those who've suffered through the ordeal. Suicide isn't quick ticket out of anything; you know, contrary to popular belief. It's actually, to a very large extent, the opposite. It requires you to leave the world you
know and
understand behind and venture into the unknown, the realm of death, which could be or not be what you hoped it to be. So you see, it's not really a question of 'trying', but the question of how much you've
tried. And I don't really think it's something we can judge or measure unless we had the front row seats in someone's life, or more accurately, someone's head. Because it's usually the perception which is factor, more so then the reality of the situation.
I know what depression does to one, seen it, lived with it as well as experienced it. But you have to admit to 1 thing! In todays world, people have low to NO tolerance left.
A little pain and they talk about death!
A little unease in life and they wanna end it!
1 failure and that is it, where is the gun....
I sort of agree with you here - tolerance for life is something which should be built; but again, you seem to be implying it's somehow 'an easy way out' - which is not the case. It's usually a combination of contempt, anger and dare. A suicidal person before on the verge is usually in the phase of self-dare. Not something which really associates with cowardice and ease.
What about those who have been living in war torn countries? Those who have seen their parents die in front of them? Those who had to bury their own children? Please help me understand how ANYTHING YOU feel can be worse than THAT? raising a child, saying them bye and never knowing that is your last bye?!
There are many people in your described category which do eventually go on to commit suicide. I heard/read many stories where people have ended their lives because of loosing loved ones or simply can't find a good enough reason to go on because everything they lived and stood for has been shattered.
Like I said, in such a state, it's usually in the mind more so then the reality itself. These people often loose perception need a hand in redefining it again. And also weather some war-torn kid in a stronger mental state then rich celebrity? People experience emotional pain based on their perceptions of life. Some thing which makes you feel good or pains all depends on how you perceive it. This doesn't mean the pain is any less intense or puerile.
So to conclude my thoughts, I don't condone suicide in anyway; I believe those in such a state are in dire need of help, since there is something recognized as 'clinical depression' and it's not just a phase of life, it's a recognized medical alignment which needs medical attention, therapy and direction.
And then to quote one of my previous posts:
" Depression is a bend, an imbalance, a disorder in the mind and the people who suffer from it are victims, and should therefore be treated no differently then victims of any other illness. If suicide
is the final result, then they should be respected like any other person who died from long suffering illness."
I believe if someone was in such a miserable state of mind to have ended his life, the least we can do is give them the benefit of the doubt and grant them the respect. Then they can take their case up with God, and since he is supposed to be the all knowing and understanding, he should deal with it.
Also my very last point, In the Islamic point of view, halal,haram, sin etcetera is only for someone in his correct state of mind. Suicidal person is anything but in his correct, sane, state of mind. It's something we call: beyond good and evil. To quote the book title of German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche.
