Arranged Marriage or Love Marriage?

[Time Assassin]

Both my parents married for love and they want me to do the same, but my aunties and gradma in Pakistan says they would find me the best looking + smartest girl in Karachi for me cos im the best looking + smartest guy they know ;P

Either way i win =]

 

[Iota]

Both my parents married for love and they want me to do the same, but my aunties and gradma in Pakistan says they would find me the best looking + smartest girl in Karachi for me cos im the best looking + smartest guy they know ;P

Either way i win =]

And what if the person they find is your cousin? This is what happened to me, and it was really embarrassing.

 

[Time Assassin]

WOAH hold up. NO.1 my mum and Dad aren't related, NO.2 my family is modern and we come from Karachi and are educated folks. NO.3 if they say marry my cousin i would look at em like this -_- and say "Get out of my house".

And bad luck for you dude, embarrassing? If that happen to me I would just suddenly die, My death would be so confusing Scientist will study my symptoms for centuries trying to figure out what happened to me.

 

[Iota]

WOAH hold up. NO.1 my mum and Dad aren't related, NO.2 my family is modern and we come from Karachi and are educated folks. NO.3 if they say marry my cousin i would look at em like this -_- and say "Get out of my house".

And bad luck for you dude, embarrassing? If that happen to me I would just suddenly die, My death would be so confusing Scientist will study my symptoms for centuries trying to figure out what happened to me.

Ok, you're lucky man. I'm 22 living in US and my cousin is 16 living in Pak. Embarrassing part was that my parents talked to and had convinced me that my cousin would be a good wife for me. I was naive and happily agreed because I knew my parents would be happy with my decision. My studies kept me really busy so I didn't have much time to think this through. Thankfully some months later my parents told my Uncle and Aunt and that same day I told my parents that I can't marry my cousin and would not be happy with her. Although I received emotional blackmail, I was still able to convince my parents to allow me to marry someone of my own choice.

Now my parents are taking me to Pak just to visit my Uncle and Aunt in June, so it's definitely going to suck for me. I've told my parents that I only find educated girls my age or older attractive and that I'm not looking for a wife until I'm done with my studies.

 

[BelligerentPacifist]

^@Time Assassin, what would happen if you were suggested to marry a sibling?

PS: good thing about the Internet, I can escape without a black eye!

 

[pak-marine]

It seems like having a love marriage rather than an arranged marriage is a taboo in Pakistani culture; at least that's how I feel like after talking to my parents who became so emotional when I said I don't want an arranged marriage.

I just wanted to see what other people here think about this. Would you get an arranged marriage or love marriage? If you got love marriage, were your parents happy with it?

Thankfully, I'm not planning on getting married any time soon. I want to finish my PhD first. I don't plan on marrying until I find the right person.

okkk .. here is expert as in experienced opinion joined the club few years back whole thing was arranged , so far very happily married with 2 kids By Allahs Grace ...... did wanted to go for love however it didnt work out well after 2 exhaustive years of relationship broke up with the girl ... those were tough times i am glad they are over now.

Love is risky but if you have found the right gal than you are one lucky sod .... spend a LOT of time before you tie a knot either way ..

 

[JonAsad]

I do not find any thing awkward in marrying a cousin-
Some say in first cousin marriage there are chances that the kids have some sort of genetic faults in them- or easily put there are chances that they'll be abnormal-
then again-- not all of the genetic/abnormal kids born in this world have parents that were cousins-

and about love or arranged-- personally i preferred love marriage- but after looking at her-- i totally gave in to my parents decision

and No- she's not my cousin-

 

[Elmo]

It's so nice to read all these comments.

Clearly, women are not the only one obsessed with getting married.

@ lota: you find educated girls attractive, now that's a rarity

 

[Iota]

okkk .. here is expert as in experienced opinion joined the club few years back whole thing was arranged , so far very happily married with 2 kids By Allahs Grace ...... did wanted to go for love however it didnt work out well after 2 exhaustive years of relationship broke up with the girl ... those were tough times i am glad they are over now.

Love is risky but if you have found the right gal than you are one lucky sod .... spend a LOT of time before you tie a knot either way ..

Congrats! Good to hear it worked out for you.

 

[Iota]

It's so nice to read all these comments.

Clearly, women are not the only one obsessed with getting married.

@ lota: you find educated girls attractive, now that's a rarity

Uh.. thanks for calling me LOTA, LOL! By the way, I love to use lota..recently I got a big lota, so I don't need to refill it as much times as I did before.

Well educated is not the only thing attractive, I meant education as a minimum. Character matters a lot!

 

[Elmo]

Uh.. thanks for calling me LOTA, LOL! By the way, I love to use lota..recently I got a big lota, so I don't need to refill it as much times as I did before.

Well educated is not the only thing attractive, I meant education as a minimum. Character matters a lot!

jhahhaha... my bad. I didn't realise that was another font

Lol... how old are you again? What about 'hotness', that doesn't matter to you, it seems most desi boys at home and abroad are obsessed with it.

 

[Iota]

jhahhaha... my bad. I didn't realise that was another font

Lol... how old are you again? What about 'hotness', that doesn't matter to you, it seems most desi boys at home and abroad are obsessed with it.

Yes, of course. Hotness matters as well! If not hot, then I won't marry. LOL!

 

[duhastmish]

i hate marriages - its a pseudo facade on a relationship kept for society.

marriage is a mathematical blunder too - its simple

1 vs everyone else ???????

of-course i would not like to constrain myself to ONE.

and i dont like much of those girls with culture and character - they make you have negative vibes and their evil eyes when they look at you sends a chill through the spine.-

 

[fallstuff]

Arranged or Love marriage both have same after affects of wife terrorism

After the initial sparks fades away it just a mater of time before it becomes a tug of war about who is controlling whom. If both individuals are non-compromising a different type of spark will start flying !!

 

[Water Car Engineer]

I do not find any thing awkward in marrying a cousin-

Ewwww..........