Why Can't Boys/Men Cry?

[Moonlight]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

 

[I.R.A]

I don't know about men in rest of the world, but if Pakistani women can cut on their crying time and volume and let the Pakistani men have their fair share of crying ......... I think that would help. Pakistani crying women look for a shoulder to cry on ........ imagine if everyone starts crying .......... what it would lead to.

I don't want to be in a situation where women of my family are crying like hell and I also breakdown ........ I have to control my emotions, keep the pain held deep inside me so the children of my family don't feel insecure in such a situation. And someone sober has to manage that situation ........ crying can be postponed to some other private time (which Pakistani men don't get that often).

 

[django]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

Their are very, very few of us who do not cry, the few i am talking about did not even cry when they lost their teenage sons, but sure must have been burning with pain inside.Kudos

 

[Hell hound]

its not like we don't cry. frequency of it might be lot lesser than our female counterpart and the reason you don't see many men crying is because we prefer to be in private when we completely let our emotion lose.

 

[Mumm-Ra]

Men do cry but not over everything and they like to keep it private. Also, I am in complete agreement with society over this. We don't need to make men more feminine. A guy who cries over every little thing is rightly considered not good for leadership roles. When the shit hits the fan you want someone in charge who keeps his emotions in control and deal with the situation accordingly.

 

[Chinese-Dragon]

Seeing a man cry in public is not a great thing, personally I would always keep such things private.

Just hold it in, like one would hold in a scream of anger. Find a quiet room and scream into a pillow.

its not like we don't cry. frequency of it might be lot lesser than our female counterpart and the reason you don't see many men crying is because we prefer to be in private when we completely let our emotion lose.

Agreed.

 

[lastofthepatriots]

I've only ever seen my father cry once when his mother passed away.

My mother told me that men don't cry when I was young. She said said if men start crying what will the women do?

 

[RealNapster]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

Yar i dont know why but whenever there is a situation which justify crying, or whenever i think mere to lag gae, mera haasa nikal jaata hay.

But it doesn't mean that i am not emotional. Even the thought of loosing my brothers sisters and parents make me cry. Baaki kisi ko majboor deku, ghareeb ko bhooka deku to bas rony lag parta hun. Phir logo ko bahana karta hun aankh me kuch chala gya.

Btw i was in class when i read the news on mobile about APS Attack. That time reports were that 17 chidrens are dead. Suddenly when reports emerged that its 32 now. I start cryig infront of whole class. I think that make me human . @Hell hound

 

[Zibago]

This society has made things so hard for men when it comes to emotions. Why is that?
Crying in difficult times for men or boys don't make them weak. Is it the fault of this society as whole or the environment an individual is raised in play a role? I was reading a report on this and one psychologist stated, All their lives they were told, “Real men don’t cry,”. But I personally believe, only real men cry. Also, scientifically speaking, it's proven good to cry out for your health both emotional health and physical. It releases toxin from the body.

In another article I got read this, "From a physiological perspective, when humans get stressed there is an increase in adrenocorticotropic hormone (ACTH). Over time as this builds it leads to more stress that demands to be released." That is actually very scary. Severe depression at least once make the thought of killing yourself cross. Very unfortaunelty, many times people do attempt suicide.
Additionally, of you talk about class system, I have observed in middle or lower middle, let alone crying in depression, even crying on death if someone beloved to you is taken strangely. Men can't even cry on death of his wife, even that I have seen. They always get to hear, "mard bano" (be a man). That is so unfair.

This needs to be changed. It doesn't make you look weak a man. I would ask you all male members and my friends on this forum and visitors to manage the useless pressure of this society and do cry when your heart is heavy.

More power to you all.

@django @Zibago @Hell hound @The Sandman @Realistic Change @PakSword @Arsalan @abdulbarijan @RealNapster @The Diplomat @The Eagle @Sher Shah Awan @saiyan0321 @Silk @Burhan Wani & all others...

 

[AZADPAKISTAN2009]

Boy/Men cry it is wrong to state that Male do not cry it is illogical statement
Emotionally they are bit stronger however every on has a limit

There is a difference between crying done by women i.e complaining about issues with other women i.e tiny little matter and casuing a fuss about it etc why my living room is not as nice as someone in neighbourhood , or my husband does not gives me enough spending cash

However here I am talking about actually going thru a real life sad experience i.e loss of loved one or family member etc or repenting from something.

Losing someone by death etc or other tragic experience etc like in Earth quake etc women will break down easily and men have more strength but under extreme cases even men will shed tears

 

[Hell hound]

Yar i dont know why but whenever there is a situation which justify crying, or whenever i think mere to lag gae, mera haasa nikal jaata hay.

But it doesn't mean that i am not emotional. Even the thought of loosing my brothers sisters and parents make me cry. Baaki kisi ko majboor deku, ghareeb ko bhooka deku to bas rony lag parta hun. Phir logo ko bahana karta hun aankh me kuch chala gya.

Btw i was in class when i read the news on mobile about APS Attack. That time reports were that 17 chidrens are dead. Suddenly when reports emerged that its 32 now. I start cryig infront of whole class. I think that make me human . @Hell hound

mate its not that i don't get emotional.its just that when it comes to people i tend to sympathize more than empathize. plus my brain is wired a different way instead of feeling it starts to analyse the situation and try to make sense of it by finding the reasons.that helps me dampen the pain to such extent that some start feeling like an emotionless robot and believe me i hate it some times.
truth be told i have never cried on anyone's death since i turned 19 sure it make me sad but crying feels like bit unnatural at such a natural process.last time i remember that i cried was before the death of my grandfather and that too because i couldn't see him in pain no more.but to my surprise i couldn't shed a single tear when he died few day latter.
so i guess we all are wired in different ways no one is stronger than other just different.don't let society keep you from venting out the mental pressure.

 

[Moonlight]

its not like we don't cry. frequency of it might be lot lesser than our female counterpart and the reason you don't see many men crying is because we prefer to be in private when we completely let our emotion lose.

Well I’m a girl and even I don’t like crying in front anyone. That’s a whole different thing. But I mean, if there is some serious kind of problems in a man’s life why can’t he cry in front of even his family? I have seen families saying “Mard bano”. Why?

Seeing a man cry in public is not a great thing, personally I would always keep such things private.

As I quoted to hell hound. Even many girls keep their tears private.
But if a girl cry in a group of people no one will take it strangely. But if a male does the same, it would be taken as a “weak” man.

Yar i dont know why but whenever there is a situation which justify crying, or whenever i think mere to lag gae, mera haasa nikal jaata hay.

But it doesn't mean that i am not emotional. Even the thought of loosing my brothers sisters and parents make me cry. Baaki kisi ko majboor deku, ghareeb ko bhooka deku to bas rony lag parta hun. Phir logo ko bahana karta hun aankh me kuch chala gya.

Btw i was in class when i read the news on mobile about APS Attack. That time reports were that 17 chidrens are dead. Suddenly when reports emerged that its 32 now. I start cryig infront of whole class. I think that make me human . @Hell hound

Don’t talk about APS. Even the thought of it makes me so emotional.

Yep Yep.

 

[Zibago]

But if a girl cry in a group of people no one will take it strangely. But if a male does the same, it would be taken as a “weak” man.

Simple we train ourselves from young age to control our emotions

 

[Moonlight]

Simple an emotionally weak man is considered weak

But crying isn’t being emotionally weak.

 

[Zibago]

But crying isn’t being emotionally weak.

Well some do look at it from this perspective
In a tense situation you are expected to be the tall tree that endures the waves not the one that crumbles under heir pressure