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I came across this blogsite a few days back...its quite interesting to know how 2 indians spend their lives in islamabad....The life and times of two Indians in Pakistan
I say everybody should read the articles both indians and pakistanis
here are a few of 'em which drew my attention:
Tapping our phones....
It is obviously not a good feeling to know that someone is listening to your phone conversations, yet I have had my fun moments in Pakistan where our phones are routinely tapped.
Friends and family have learnt to say namaste to bhais tapping phones and often hold imaginary conversations with them. Bhai please go easy on her ., a friend acknowledged Bhais presence recently.
Another friend has named "phone-Bhai" Kabeer.
Is he good looking? she joked one day. Since I said yes, she started talking to K-Bhai. Kabeer, are you listening? Kabeer, I am willing to relocate. Kabeer, I am single and ready to mingle . she guffawed.
However, we are not the only ones having fun. Bhais have their moments too. Once when I called my sister from my husbands mobile phone I heard a mans voice. Who are you? I asked. You tell me who you are K-Bhai was flirting. I passed the phone to my husband.
A friend heard her phone-Bhai laughing really hard because she was trying to gently remind her young daughter that their phone was tapped!
I'd be lying if I'd say that tapping doesn't affect my conversations. Sometimes my talk tends to be coded because it feels odd to spell out everything. Are the payments done? I keep checking with my sister. My sister, too, quickly retorts with a yes or a no and blurts the amount both foolishly thinking that we have outsmarted Bhai who has never heard of LIC!
Then there are times when I want people to take hints and codes to work --but no! My aunt loves breaking into a monologue about how unsafe Pakistan is and how she would like to have me back in India and I suddenly become hugely conscious of K-Bhai's presence. Or worse, her favourite query which makes me cringe --- how is your health NOW? She perhaps remembers my typhoid many years ago, but I would seriously love to know what Bhai makes of that.
Every so often I think that having heard all my friends and familys collective problems K-Bhai should offer some solutions. Or at least tell us why a man with a Pashtu accent answers my husbands number when I call or when my phone rings late into the night why is the display number mine!
It takes a while to get over K-Bhai, but I don't think I can ever check him out of my consciousness. Just one moment of regret though. I wish I hadnt stopped myself from crying on my mothers first death anniversary -- because I was so very conscious of K-Bhai!
We've got hate mail!
We often get hate mail. We've been called "dogs" and "pigs" several times in the past year. When we blogged about the Taseer sisters being our new poster girls earlier this year we got anonymous messages asking us to leave Pakistan!
And now an ardent Shahida Ahmed fan has called us "Indian bastard" suggesting that we go back to our "poverty stricken ******* country" and blog about that.
Shahida Ahmed is a topline restaurant owner who runs a commercial kitchen from our next door house. In India, we Indians would not have allowed this to happen at an urban address.
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You mother ******! How dare you write such insulting posts time and time again about a hard working woman such as Shahida Ahmad! Rather than being a whiney ***** why don't you move out of the neighborhood! Better yet why don't you move back to India, "I am sure you can more than afford it" and I'm sure the cows and pigs residing all over India would make better neighbors for someone like you. You practically are one of them after all!
By Anonymous on We are your mehman, Mrs Ahmed! on 7/24/11
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You Indian bastard, go back to your poverty stricken ******* country and blog about that!
By Anonymous on Move them out Shahida Ahmed!! on 7/24/11
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Do you honestly have nothing better to do with your time other than crib and complain about her! Or am I sensing the green eyed monster of jealousy coming out!
By Anonymous on Move them out Shahida Ahmed!! on 7/24/11
Pakistani yogini...
This is Aisha Chapra. A young Pakistani woman who is trying to bring peace in the life of woman prisoners in Karachi by teaching them yoga.
I have never met Aisha, only spoken to her on the phone and exchanged emails, but I am thoroughly impressed with her work.
It was Aishas idea to approach authorities to let her teach woman prisoners. Fortunately for her it was smooth sail and she is doing her bit to help them live. In the past two years, she has taught 30 to 40 prisoners in the age group of 20 to 40 and some prisoners children too.
It is optional for prisoners to join her class. She teaches these women for free, but their warmth and genuine happiness recharges her battery.
Chapra discovered yoga as she was trying to tide over a bad patch. She was, as she puts it, depressed, disoriented and directionless and it was yoga that gave her peace.
Her first class in prison wasnt easy but her experience as a social worker helped her pull through. She had scores of women and children watching her, some ridiculing her and few participating. However, as the days passed, she became friends with the prisoners by listening to their stories and even massaging their sore muscles. Soon I was their friend, listening to their woes and counseling them, she says.
Chapra's stint at the jail has been a great lesson in life. I get as much from them as I give them. I admire them for being strong and having faith, despite their circumstances.
For Chapra, the connection with these women is special. It is this desire to access freedom from within, to liberate in a way that inspires, moves and lifts me outside of myself. I know it is their strength, their incredible compassion that I feel at the end of the class.
Weeks and months have gone by and now these women and their children have become a part of my life. A part of the answer which I was so desperately searching for. And every week they give me something to smile about, a new story to share, and a new lesson to learn, while giving me a consistent dose of inspiration, Aisha posted on her blog.
But women will always be women and they can't stop nagging Aisha about this: how do get rid of the flab on the stomach!!
Being Indian in Pakistan....
It is not easy to ignore ordinary people's warmth in Pakistan and despite myself I have befriended plenty of locals -- cabbies, shopkeepers, little boys who play cricket in the neighbourhood and a little girl who races boys on her brother's bicycle.
My little Pakistani friends...
The talking point has almost always been our 11 cats and now a puppy, the newest addition to the family.
The little girl, who lives in our neighbour's servant quarter, shyly says "hello" to me when I go past her house. Her brother, who is just a year older, is sort of our official rescuer when our cats get stuck on a tree.
Bilal, an expert at climbing trees, with his pet
Some time ago, the little girl asked me if she could accompany me to the market. I said "yes" and on our way we chatted about her bicycle, which she hardly ever gets to ride now because her brother returns home late.
Since all our cats are rescues and, therefore, no fancy breeds, the older kids in the neighbourhood tell us to keep a "Persian" or a "Siamese". We let that pass because we have given up on people who think rescues are "junglies". Incidentally, all are cats are Pakistani rescues or "honorary Indians" as we jokingly call them. The cabbies, too, always stop to inquire about our pets' health.
Our Indianness has never been an issue with anyone.
So I was rather surprised when I walked into a shop in the neighbourhood market to buy cat food. The shopkeeper, a very friendly chap, passed me a tin of expired cat food. I told him that I could not feed my cats expired food and he should get rid of it.
"These are Pakistani cats.....they can eat everything....they will not die," he joked for the hundredth time and reached for the cans that he stocks especially for me.
Suddenly I heard the "I" word from behind me. "Arrey yeh kahan kee hain pehley yeh to pata karo... (first find out where is she from)..."
"Yeh Indian hai bhai INDIAN..." someone was saying very accusingly from behind.
I turned and saw a well-built man looking down at me. I had never seen him before, but obviously he knew who I was. Others at the shop also started scanning me. I looked at the shopkepeer and then at his boys, they were all avoiding eye contact. I paid my bill and exited.
The incident left a bad taste in my mouth. It haunted me for quite a while. I was mad at myself for not checkmating that man. I was also mad at the shopkeeper for not speaking up.
I decided not go to his shop again.
However, two days later, I was there again because he is the only one in the neighbourhood who stocks cat food. The shopkeeper was around, but he did not talk to me much. I, too, did not make an attempt to speak.
The day after I was at the shop again. I asked one of his boys to give me something. The shopkeeper was busy with another customer. I saw him signalling at me from a far corner. I ignored him.
Then he came near where I was standing and passed me the expired cat food can again. "Yeh hamari Pakistani billiyan hain....yeh nahin marti...inhain aap yeh expired food hi khilayeye (These are Pakistani cats..they will not die if you feed them expired food..." he guffawed.
"Feed this to your dog too!"
I laughed and retorted: "Doctor ke paas aap lejayenge (will you take the dog to the vet then?)"
"Which doctor do you go to?" he asked, ignoring other customers. I told him.
"I am going to feed these expired cans to OUR Pakistani cats....for FREE," he laughed some more.
It was obvious that he was going the extra mile to make up for that day. "I am going to order more cat food for you tomorrow! Is that okay?" he asked.
Long after I returned home, I was still smiling.
I say everybody should read the articles both indians and pakistanis
here are a few of 'em which drew my attention:
Tapping our phones....
It is obviously not a good feeling to know that someone is listening to your phone conversations, yet I have had my fun moments in Pakistan where our phones are routinely tapped.
Friends and family have learnt to say namaste to bhais tapping phones and often hold imaginary conversations with them. Bhai please go easy on her ., a friend acknowledged Bhais presence recently.
Another friend has named "phone-Bhai" Kabeer.
Is he good looking? she joked one day. Since I said yes, she started talking to K-Bhai. Kabeer, are you listening? Kabeer, I am willing to relocate. Kabeer, I am single and ready to mingle . she guffawed.
However, we are not the only ones having fun. Bhais have their moments too. Once when I called my sister from my husbands mobile phone I heard a mans voice. Who are you? I asked. You tell me who you are K-Bhai was flirting. I passed the phone to my husband.
A friend heard her phone-Bhai laughing really hard because she was trying to gently remind her young daughter that their phone was tapped!
I'd be lying if I'd say that tapping doesn't affect my conversations. Sometimes my talk tends to be coded because it feels odd to spell out everything. Are the payments done? I keep checking with my sister. My sister, too, quickly retorts with a yes or a no and blurts the amount both foolishly thinking that we have outsmarted Bhai who has never heard of LIC!
Then there are times when I want people to take hints and codes to work --but no! My aunt loves breaking into a monologue about how unsafe Pakistan is and how she would like to have me back in India and I suddenly become hugely conscious of K-Bhai's presence. Or worse, her favourite query which makes me cringe --- how is your health NOW? She perhaps remembers my typhoid many years ago, but I would seriously love to know what Bhai makes of that.
Every so often I think that having heard all my friends and familys collective problems K-Bhai should offer some solutions. Or at least tell us why a man with a Pashtu accent answers my husbands number when I call or when my phone rings late into the night why is the display number mine!
It takes a while to get over K-Bhai, but I don't think I can ever check him out of my consciousness. Just one moment of regret though. I wish I hadnt stopped myself from crying on my mothers first death anniversary -- because I was so very conscious of K-Bhai!
We've got hate mail!
We often get hate mail. We've been called "dogs" and "pigs" several times in the past year. When we blogged about the Taseer sisters being our new poster girls earlier this year we got anonymous messages asking us to leave Pakistan!
And now an ardent Shahida Ahmed fan has called us "Indian bastard" suggesting that we go back to our "poverty stricken ******* country" and blog about that.
Shahida Ahmed is a topline restaurant owner who runs a commercial kitchen from our next door house. In India, we Indians would not have allowed this to happen at an urban address.
1 3 of 3
You mother ******! How dare you write such insulting posts time and time again about a hard working woman such as Shahida Ahmad! Rather than being a whiney ***** why don't you move out of the neighborhood! Better yet why don't you move back to India, "I am sure you can more than afford it" and I'm sure the cows and pigs residing all over India would make better neighbors for someone like you. You practically are one of them after all!
By Anonymous on We are your mehman, Mrs Ahmed! on 7/24/11
Publish | Spam | Delete
You Indian bastard, go back to your poverty stricken ******* country and blog about that!
By Anonymous on Move them out Shahida Ahmed!! on 7/24/11
Publish | Spam | Delete
Do you honestly have nothing better to do with your time other than crib and complain about her! Or am I sensing the green eyed monster of jealousy coming out!
By Anonymous on Move them out Shahida Ahmed!! on 7/24/11
Pakistani yogini...
This is Aisha Chapra. A young Pakistani woman who is trying to bring peace in the life of woman prisoners in Karachi by teaching them yoga.
I have never met Aisha, only spoken to her on the phone and exchanged emails, but I am thoroughly impressed with her work.
It was Aishas idea to approach authorities to let her teach woman prisoners. Fortunately for her it was smooth sail and she is doing her bit to help them live. In the past two years, she has taught 30 to 40 prisoners in the age group of 20 to 40 and some prisoners children too.
It is optional for prisoners to join her class. She teaches these women for free, but their warmth and genuine happiness recharges her battery.
Chapra discovered yoga as she was trying to tide over a bad patch. She was, as she puts it, depressed, disoriented and directionless and it was yoga that gave her peace.
Her first class in prison wasnt easy but her experience as a social worker helped her pull through. She had scores of women and children watching her, some ridiculing her and few participating. However, as the days passed, she became friends with the prisoners by listening to their stories and even massaging their sore muscles. Soon I was their friend, listening to their woes and counseling them, she says.
Chapra's stint at the jail has been a great lesson in life. I get as much from them as I give them. I admire them for being strong and having faith, despite their circumstances.
For Chapra, the connection with these women is special. It is this desire to access freedom from within, to liberate in a way that inspires, moves and lifts me outside of myself. I know it is their strength, their incredible compassion that I feel at the end of the class.
Weeks and months have gone by and now these women and their children have become a part of my life. A part of the answer which I was so desperately searching for. And every week they give me something to smile about, a new story to share, and a new lesson to learn, while giving me a consistent dose of inspiration, Aisha posted on her blog.
But women will always be women and they can't stop nagging Aisha about this: how do get rid of the flab on the stomach!!
Being Indian in Pakistan....
It is not easy to ignore ordinary people's warmth in Pakistan and despite myself I have befriended plenty of locals -- cabbies, shopkeepers, little boys who play cricket in the neighbourhood and a little girl who races boys on her brother's bicycle.
My little Pakistani friends...
The talking point has almost always been our 11 cats and now a puppy, the newest addition to the family.
The little girl, who lives in our neighbour's servant quarter, shyly says "hello" to me when I go past her house. Her brother, who is just a year older, is sort of our official rescuer when our cats get stuck on a tree.
Bilal, an expert at climbing trees, with his pet
Some time ago, the little girl asked me if she could accompany me to the market. I said "yes" and on our way we chatted about her bicycle, which she hardly ever gets to ride now because her brother returns home late.
Since all our cats are rescues and, therefore, no fancy breeds, the older kids in the neighbourhood tell us to keep a "Persian" or a "Siamese". We let that pass because we have given up on people who think rescues are "junglies". Incidentally, all are cats are Pakistani rescues or "honorary Indians" as we jokingly call them. The cabbies, too, always stop to inquire about our pets' health.
Our Indianness has never been an issue with anyone.
So I was rather surprised when I walked into a shop in the neighbourhood market to buy cat food. The shopkeeper, a very friendly chap, passed me a tin of expired cat food. I told him that I could not feed my cats expired food and he should get rid of it.
"These are Pakistani cats.....they can eat everything....they will not die," he joked for the hundredth time and reached for the cans that he stocks especially for me.
Suddenly I heard the "I" word from behind me. "Arrey yeh kahan kee hain pehley yeh to pata karo... (first find out where is she from)..."
"Yeh Indian hai bhai INDIAN..." someone was saying very accusingly from behind.
I turned and saw a well-built man looking down at me. I had never seen him before, but obviously he knew who I was. Others at the shop also started scanning me. I looked at the shopkepeer and then at his boys, they were all avoiding eye contact. I paid my bill and exited.
The incident left a bad taste in my mouth. It haunted me for quite a while. I was mad at myself for not checkmating that man. I was also mad at the shopkeeper for not speaking up.
I decided not go to his shop again.
However, two days later, I was there again because he is the only one in the neighbourhood who stocks cat food. The shopkeeper was around, but he did not talk to me much. I, too, did not make an attempt to speak.
The day after I was at the shop again. I asked one of his boys to give me something. The shopkeeper was busy with another customer. I saw him signalling at me from a far corner. I ignored him.
Then he came near where I was standing and passed me the expired cat food can again. "Yeh hamari Pakistani billiyan hain....yeh nahin marti...inhain aap yeh expired food hi khilayeye (These are Pakistani cats..they will not die if you feed them expired food..." he guffawed.
"Feed this to your dog too!"
I laughed and retorted: "Doctor ke paas aap lejayenge (will you take the dog to the vet then?)"
"Which doctor do you go to?" he asked, ignoring other customers. I told him.
"I am going to feed these expired cans to OUR Pakistani cats....for FREE," he laughed some more.
It was obvious that he was going the extra mile to make up for that day. "I am going to order more cat food for you tomorrow! Is that okay?" he asked.
Long after I returned home, I was still smiling.