When did i say that? Diyat is an OPTION open to the victims family, they DON'T have to take it. They can opt for Qisas, life-for-life, meaning the MURDERER is put to death, OR they can FORGIVE the MURDER and set him/her free.
So, there are 3 options for the victims family:
1). Diyat
2). Qisas
3). Forgiveness of the Murderer and set him/her free
I'm sorry not many people have time to teach Hadood punishments as this is NOT the forum for it. I've had a person on another thread who completely rejected the authenticity of hadith of nabi as'salaathu was'salaam in Abu Dawood. And yet when I asked him a basic question on hadith, he did not know, and yet he questions one of collections of 'saheeh-sitha'.
People on here are so ignorant that they don't realise with looseness are their tongue they're negating their Imaan. Take the one who rejected the collection from Abu Dawoud; hadith are sayings, actions of nabi as'salaathu was'salaam. In Arabic we say, sadaqa-rasool-Allah. And By Allah, that boy is the LIAR and our NABI as'salaathu was'salaam is truthful.
Bhai, you have good English, better than mine. I learnt it debating Hindustanis and Zionists on the net, so why don't use the internet and find out what Islam is, focusing on aqeedah.