Lol... I disagree completely. One cannot judge someone's else's life with the bar they use for their own. I have seen very few people who did not value fidelity in their life ever (nor do so now) regret it. That's how their life works for them... call them commitment-phobes or whatever else, not everyone is cut out to be in a long-term relationship.
As for nice guys not getting the immoral hottie... well be they nice or not-so-nice, guys do want the hottie... only after countless rejections will they go for a "special lady"... in other words, yahan tau daal nahin galnay wali, tau kahin aur chaltay hain.
(Btw, one knows of countless nice guys who will keep going back to their "hotties", no matter how many times she cheats on him or how she treats him.)
You misunderstood me completely here...it is not that they regret their infidelity...they instead regret the outcome of their lives when they reach a certain age...it is that they become bitter over lack of love or meaningful relationship...this is not something they confess openly...i say this because a couple of people close to me were unfortunate enough to walk down this path...they did not seem to enjoy themselves as much when facing the outcome of their decisions and that is what i am saying.
I have seen someone very close who chose such a lifestyle over a loving wife and eventually he died alone and bitter...so i guess i speak from experience of seeing someone suffer the consequences of his decisions in his final days when he was desperate to seek the embittered children he had with that wife he estranged due to his own ridiculous choices...a sad affair but his own fault for spurning the love of his wife and the mother of his children.
On the other hand i have seen some really golden couples who were so lovely to watch when they were old and cared so much for each other...
you cannot have both the things in life side by side and that is what i am saying...a woman may put up with a husband who is a rascal but her love will not be earned this way and her unhappiness will have consequences not just for her but the person who is hurting her as well.
Commitment may scare people but if they succumb to this fear then they will never taste true love and that is no oversimplification...
Well i guess your and my definition of a nice guy is not the same...i would say a principled guy to make it clear...it is painful to be one but not unrewarding...if reward is a good relationship that is.
Hehehe...so you think everyone wants the immoral hottie...i tend to disagree here...as a husband nobody would want an immoral wife and i do not think that works the other way as well...
I guess i am a one woman man and never contemplated having any hottie on the side till i committed to the special lady, it seemed rather hypocritical to indulge in such pleasures and then look for a chaste lady to be my wife.
I did not face any rejection or non interest which motivated me in such a step, it certainly was not sour grapes for i was thankfully very well liked wherever i was...it just seemed right and that's the best way to describe it, i guess.
We are the ones who used to watch sweet movies like You've got mail and sleepless in Seattle...i guess we are a bit too romantic to shed the notion that just being with someone is nothing compared to being with someone you truly love...
Anyways...i guess there are many different views on this...i was just saying what i believe in and stand by...based on experience...maybe it will reaffirm someones belief in the merits of fidelity and love...maybe...