This is good for you as it will give Pashtuns a bigger role in things.
Pakistan wants a larger role in Afghanistan after struggling for it for so many years and housing so many refugees. Pakistanis see a bond with Afghanistan. Afghan nationals do not see it and have often bashed us which has been a blow to Pakistan. When 4 years ago when this Pashtun-mania hadn't even come over me a friend from Pakhtunkhwa suggested that Afghans should all be expelled from Pakistan. I defended Afghans even then very vociferously and he blamed me of being Pashtun nationalist though at that time I didn't even know what the hell that was and was like a normal Karachite.
There is a sense of betrayal. Even I went to the other forum expecting respect but instead not a day passed without your countrymen bashing us. It has in many ways enraged me. Also Pakistanis don't know much about Afghanistan and the local thinking. If they did Pakistanis might have wanted Pakistan to be much more aggressive and assertive in Afghanistan.
It is simple what Pakistan wants. An Afghanistan that is not hostile or being used as a tool against our country. As far as what is written about "Pakistan being on the drivers seat" is pretty much rubbish.
I do not understand the meaning of larger role? What kind of a role do expect us to give you? Geographically, and in terms of trade and economics and people to people relations wise you already have a dominant role. Pakistan to larger extend dominates Afghanistan economy; majority of our imports are from Pakistan and so does majority of our export surplus (within this highly unbalanced negative balance of trade) comes from Pakistan. But that is not what is really the intention of Pak policymakers is it, it want to establish its dominance and hegemony over Afghanistan and want dictate our internal matters - in other words a satellite state. This will never happen, mark my word. Even Taliban will not accede that to Pakistan if had emerged back in late 90s or even if it was to once again (which will never happen).
On the refugee issue, we have always expressed our gratitude to Pakistan for providing the refuge and war time assistance to our people in a war which we fought together. A war which posed the greatest threat to Pakistan national security and integrity since its birth. We lost millions, our country, our future, where as you don't have to face the threat of Soviet forces and a communist regime on one hand and India on the other threatening you. Who knows may be I would've been talking to you being holding your allegiance to another entity than Pakistan. Afghans started to become ambivalent after the degree of manipulation of refugees and resistance politics by your establishment and intelligence.
Ironically a UN-sponsored repatriation of Afghan refugees prior to settlement with the then Najibullah's government was criticized by Pakistan and blocked by its religious parties and those of its surrogate resistance groups in Peshawar. And with coming to power of Nawaz Sharif's party coalition, the return of refugees came to a virtual halt, forcing cutbacks in U.N. humanitarian programs. Why? The truth is Pakistan was bent on to dislodge the last remaining of any central state authority while it encouraged a military solution when Najib was insisting on reconciliation and national unity government. In fact those were the times the Pakistan based resistance groups became highly suspicious of Pakistan as a result of which high degree of coordination reached among their commanders and there was then broadly held feeling that they liberate their policy from the direction of ISI et al. While then Pakistan heavily tried to favor the Islamist fanatics, it alienated and antagonized others key players by taking side. It kept trying to impose a radical islamist government of its wish.. and then come the Taliban period. So the point is, and to the sense of betrayal, it is us who should be feeling that way.
So I don't know what Pakistan wants this time around, if the driver's seat is indeed given to it. Back then when the Soviets left when everything was entirely left to Pakistan, it either wanted an Islamist fundamentalist regime imposed on Afghanistan or it many arguably would say that it wanted a decentralized, feudal, warlord-run Afghanistan. Both had its drawbacks. So while Pakistan is not ensconced as was in the 90's the strategic options are also greatly altered.
While we know that Pakistan provides sanctuary and abets the Taliban insurgency it remains unclear, at least to me, what role it'll play toward stability in Afghanistan. Contrary to the believe of people like Hyperion, we have learned our lesson and will not repeat the mistakes of the past, Afghanistan will not land and crash. So question is again what does Pakistan want, and how has it been struggling for this role? We certainly paid a high toll for your struggle and so did your people. It won't get you any where.
And what about the the threat of terrorism and insecurity Pakistan faces and lack of ability and willingness to deal with it decisively?
What exactly do you mean that it is good for me as it will give Pashtuns a bigger role in things? Seriously, if anything Taliban will set us a century backward if anything. You could do with blessing Pakistan with giving TTP that role instead. With Taliban and their insurgency we Pashtun have been the main losers. Other than that Pashtuns dominate Afghanistan and the apex of its power structure, don't you know that?