These things are policed well.
I NEVER had any hate crime happened to me or my family. Some of my family have been here for 20-40 years. Yes, some got mugged, but thats not a hate crime and you live in New York City it will happened.
You need to know the every day people man. I grow up with whites, Blacks, Spanish, etc sense kindergarten, and we never looked at each other differently because of our differences, and I know these friends to this day! I dont know about some places in the south or mid-west, but where people are mixing we learn to be tolerate one another.
I can give you examples of "problems", but these are small in comparison to the happiness and opportunity America gives us. We have equal opportunity here, thats what matters. Indian-Americans wouldn't be the richest ethic group here if there wasnt no tolerance.
You dont have a clue.