Well, that is a reasonable response, and I envy you the position from which you are saying this. Please consider the situation in these terms:
- This is generally a far less violent and arms-laden country than Pakistan. You have to see 'country-made' weaponry made in the illegal arms factories of Bihar with your products out of Darra Adam Khel. There is simply no comparison. So an antipathy that might mean a massacre in Pakistan comes down to vileness of behaviour in India.
- Much of the dislike and intolerance is isolated to caste-defined silos. There are certain castes likely to be prone to communal feeling to a greater degree than the rest of society in general. It is precisely those castes that have easier access to 'education' (or the technical training that substitutes for education), consequently, easier access to jobs, and, the final step, the financial buffers to look around and fill the void that seems to overcome them, that drives them to seek their identity in religious labels, or in ethnic groups, or in language groups. Sorry, that was not the final step; the final step was that these sections of society also have had to suffer slowing down of improvements in their material condition and suffered the consequences of a slow-down in the rate of growth, and that powered nearly half the numbers who voted for Modi's party.
- I believe that these segments are themselves in a minority when we consider the minorities as defined (Muslim, Christian, Sikh, primarily) and in combination with the Dalit or the tribal. The task is not as easy as they think.
I hope this gives you some clues to the currents and cross-currents within Indian society.