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[MultaniGuy]

‘Every second woman suffers domestic violence in Pakistan’
Faiza Ilyas Updated November 06, 2016

'Rampant' violence against women in Pakistan revealed as groups fight 'un-Islamic' law against domestic abuse
A law aiming to protect women and punish abusers has met stiff resistance

Same can be said for UK, my friend

My husband cheated on me and now I’m disgusted by the idea of sex


We split up for a while and then got back together, but I don’t know how to fix our physical relationship

Pamela Stephenson Connolly

Mon 18 Jun 2018 08.00 BSTLast modified on Mon 18 Jun 2018 19.30 BST

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‘It is extremely common for a betrayed partner to be turned off sex.’ Composite: Getty/Guardian Imaging
I’m a 30-year-old woman, and have been with my husband for 11 years. We have three kids and both work full-time jobs. Three years ago he cheated on me with his ex from school. We split up for seven months then got back together, but now I’m kind of disgusted by the idea of sex. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, or how to fix this. I don’t know how much longer he will put up with this.

Your husband clearly loves you for many reasons other than sex. And you deserve to have all the time you need to heal from the trauma of discovering his affair. It is extremely common for a betrayed partner to be turned off sex, and your husband needs to understand this. He also needs to be patient, supportive and to work hard to rebuild your trust in him. It’s unfortunate that you seem to feel that your disgust is wrong and that you need to try to accommodate him despite it. Find a way to get him to listen to you. You might say: “It would be nice if we were able to pick up where we left off, but that’s not possible for everything. It’s going to take me some time to feel sexually confident again, and I really need your understanding and support.”

Then ask very specifically for what you need – whatever that might be. Maybe you need him to be more reassuring, to provide more non-sexual loving touches, to set aside one night a week for an outing without the kids? Whatever it is, express your exact needs and teach him to treat you like the special, attractive woman you are. You are no doubt still harbouring resentment and distrust, and those understandable emotions are undermining your sense of safety with him – and that in turn curtails your sexual desire. If he makes a decent effort to comply with your requests, you will eventually trust and welcome him again.

• Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.

• If you would like advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly on sexual matters, send us a brief description of your concerns to private.lives@theguardian.com (please don’t send attachments). Submissions are subject to our terms and conditions: see gu.com/letters-terms

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeand...on-me-and-now-im-disgusted-by-the-idea-of-sex

Extramarital affairs and alcoholism is common in the UK. Before pointing at other people's faults, look at your own first. .

‘Every second woman suffers domestic violence in Pakistan’
Faiza Ilyas Updated November 06, 2016

'Rampant' violence against women in Pakistan revealed as groups fight 'un-Islamic' law against domestic abuse
A law aiming to protect women and punish abusers has met stiff resistance

Same can be said about British men again
British man killed wife with hammer in Dubai 'after she called him a loser'
Former Gulf News editor Francis Matthew avoids death penalty over killing in sentence handed down by Emirati court

• Tom Barnes
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Former Gulf News editor Francis Matthew has been jailed over his wife's killing ( Francis Matthew/Twitter )
A British journalist has been jailed for 10 years for beating his wife to death with a hammer at their Dubai home.

Francis Matthew was sentenced in absence at the Dubai Court of the First Instance on Sunday after being found guilty of killing his 62-year-old wife Jane Matthew in July last year.

The former editor of English-language publication Gulf News had faced the possibility of the death penalty over the incident.


Matthew initially told police that burglars had broken into the couple’s three-bedroom villa in the upmarket Jumeriah neighbourhood and killed his wife of 30 years.

Jane Matthew was beaten to death by her husband in July 2017 (PA)
However, he later capitulated under interrogation, allegedly telling officers Mrs Matthew had grown angry with him because they were in debt and needed to move.

The journalist then lost his temper after she called him a "loser" and told him "you should provide financially", police said.

A report by Emirati investigators detailed how Matthew fetched a hammer after his wife had pushed him, following her into their bedroom and striking her twice in the head with blows that proved to be fatal.

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The 61-year-old had faced a charge of premeditated murder, but his lawyers maintained he never intended to kill Mrs Matthew and was instead acting in a sudden fit of “intense outrage”.

It is not clear from trial judge Fahad al-Shamsi’s verdict whether or not the court accepted this defence.

A statement released by Mrs Matthew’s family following the sentencing said relatives believed "justice has not yet been done", announcing their intention to appeal the ruling.

"Jane was a loving wife, mother, daughter, sister and aunt," the statement said: "Losing her in such a brutal manner has left the family both bewildered and shocked.

"We attended the Dubai Courts today, and our family has been saddened by the sentence given to Francis Matthew, Jane's killer.

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"We feel that justice has not yet been done as we realise that the actual sentence served may be less than the 10-year sentence. We hope that this sentence is changed on appeal."

Matthew served at the editor of Gulf News between 1995 and 2005 and had continued to write regularly for the daily after stepping down, contributing a weekly column, while also appearing as a commentator on television.

The Matthews had married in Chippenham, Wiltshire in 1985.

Additional reporting by PA

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/...ancis-matthew-jane-murdered-uae-a8272856.html

 

[doorstar]

we do not use Bible verses to justify crime in UK (we punish the perpetrators) whereas same can't be said about Islamic ulema abusing Quranic texts to justify your criminal behaviors, in-fact if it were in my power I would abolish religion altogether

 

[MultaniGuy]

we do not use Bible verses to justify crime in UK (we punish the perpetrators) whereas same can't be said about Islamic ulema abusing Quranic texts to justify your criminal behaviors, in-fact if it were in my power I would abolish religion altogether

Why stop about the UK? The Lord's resistance army in Africa commits many crimes against humanity, and the racism espoused by the KKK in USA.

 

[doorstar]

since you like to hop about incoherently, I can't keep up unless you get an impartial Moderator (impossible task at PDF) to watch over our discussion, limited to UK vs. Pakistan, I'll not reply to you directly anymore except occasionally to contradict your blatantly false claims

 

[Pan-Islamic-Pakistan]

Give these Christians the same authority of taliban then you will see how nice they are

I know about the hypocrisy of muslims they don't want the west to become christian so they can go and live their but at the same time they don't want secularism in their countries.bottom line is they want to emigrate to the secular west at the same time they fight secularism in their countries

Sorry but I am not defending such hypocrite animals also the US is not christian country if these politicians want to enforce the christian none sense in secular america then they should move to Vatican because these people are the reason why many came to america in the first place

It's just like an afghan who left his country because of the taliban and sharia law but after he arrive in the west he start calling for sharia law to be established in the west sorry but this will not going to happen

Totally wrong here. Muslims in the US are afraid for their lives and families. I don't know if you noticed what is going on with migrants and their children?

The right-wing fascists in America who have been saying for years that they want to slaughter Muslims are now in power. Listen to their words and look at their actions to see how Godless and conniving these people really are.

These are the people who idolize Adolf Hitler, the Crusaders, The Spanish Inquisition, and the JDL. They want bloodshed and violence, and they are just waiting for their chance to slaughter every black, hispanic, and Muslim in the US.

 

[Hamza913]

I don’t need to move anyone, either you respect your host country and it’s religion or go back to where you came from so you are not bothered. Either way I shouldn’t have to tell you to respect all people and their faith, it’s something every kid is taught but then again you came from an A-Stan country where those basic principles are not followed. Bigotry and intolerance is instead taught.


As for your obsession with Jordan, I changed my flag in honor of a Jordanian pilot that was burned and caged by evil Christians of course.

I have my right to laugh at your silly claims, since I'm not physically harming anyone or suggesting that such a thing would be justified.

It's been 3 years, time to update.

 

[SALMAN F]

Totally wrong here. Muslims in the US are afraid for their lives and families. I don't know if you noticed what is going on with migrants and their children?

The right-wing fascists in America who have been saying for years that they want to slaughter Muslims are now in power. Listen to their words and look at their actions to see how Godless and conniving these people really are.

These are the people who idolize Adolf Hitler, the Crusaders, The Spanish Inquisition, and the JDL. They want bloodshed and violence, and they are just waiting for their chance to slaughter every black, hispanic, and Muslim in the US.

Wrong it the muslims don't feel safe in america they are welcome to leave but in reality no muslims are leaving america compare to the muslims who leave the muslim countries

As for crusades they were payback for the 400 years muslim aggression

As for spanish requinsta they just liberating their lands from the muslim invaders so what's wrong with that is the same thing with Algerians liberating their lands from the french colonizers you can't say glorifying algerian resistance by arabs and Africans today is glorifying for terrorism

These Christians have control of the presidency, the House and Congress. Still waiting to see people getting executed, forced to cover their faces, ect. Republicans are the only once’s with the guts to inforce laws on the border. Suddenly that makes them racist.

But wait, Democrats such as Obama, Clinton, Schumer, ect were tough on immigration as well but suddenly when votes are at stake they are against these “racist” policies.

US is not ruled by christisnity but by the constitution if the church was in charge you would see the killing of gays everywhere

 

[Pan-Islamic-Pakistan]

Wrong it the muslims don't feel safe in america they are welcome to leave but in reality no muslims are leaving america compare to the muslims who leave the muslim countries

As for crusades they were payback for the 400 years muslim aggression

As for spanish requinsta they just liberating their lands from the muslim invaders so what's wrong with that is the same thing with Algerians liberating their lands from the french colonizers you can't say glorifying algerian resistance by arabs and Africans today is glorifying for terrorism


US is not ruled by christisnity but by the constitution if the church was in charge you would see the killing of gays everywhere

I guess you are a supporter of Trump.

Don’t pass such wide generalizations of Western muslims. It’s a difficult time to be a Muslim in the world, especially in Non-Muslim nations. In Sha Allah, we will be successful against our enemies.

Other than that, nothing more to discuss with you.

 

[SALMAN F]

I guess you are a supporter of Trump.

Don’t pass such wide generalizations of Western muslims. It’s a difficult time to be a Muslim in the world, especially in Non-Muslim nations. In Sha Allah, we will be successful against our enemies.

Other than that, nothing more to discuss with you.

Since when muslims belong in the west?! Aren't they infidels?!

 

[hussain0216]

The majority of countries Muslims flee to are majority Christian weather the people practice their religion regularly or not. But it’s cute how bigoted islamists use any excuse to attack Christianity, both in an idiological sense and physical.

It’s very simple, if Islamists are bothered so much by politicians proclaiming their Christian faith they can always go back to their beloved Islamic Republic’s.

Why should we have a problem coming to these countries

The more the better

When white christians feel no shame occupying native lands in America or Australia why should we care about coming or staying here?

 

[Yaseen1]

trump should ban nudity in u.s as it is not allowed in cristanity

 

[ptldM3]

Why should we have a problem coming to these countries

The more the better

When white christians feel no shame occupying native lands in America or Australia why should we care about coming or staying here?

Save your stupid bigotry and hate for Christians. You are not very educated, I can tell since you have no clue about history. Tell us about evil Japanese Bhudist occupations, or Chinese occupations. What about the Persians and Arabs occupations of Africa? What about Mongol hordes or the Ottaman conquests?


You want to talk about history of occupation, Muslims have a long and bloody history of invadsions and occupation. Muslims raped and pillaged Europe and a Africa for hundreds of years but got the boot up the rear and ran——And no, god didn’t help them either since the Jews, Russians, and just about everyone in Europe gave them beatings so bad that entire empires and armies desintegrated and begged for peice.

Need anymore painful and humiliating history lessons that backfire on you spectacularly?

 

[hussain0216]

Save your stupid bigotry and hate for Christians. You are not very educated, I can tell since you have no clue about history. Tell us about evil Japanese Bhudist occupations, or Chinese occupations. What about the Persians and Arabs occupations of Africa? What about Mongol hordes or the Ottaman conquests?


You want to talk about history of occupation, Muslims have a long and bloody history of invadsions and occupation. Muslims raped and pillaged Europe and a Africa for hundreds of years but got the boot up the rear and ran——And no, god didn’t help them either since the Jews, Russians, and just about everyone in Europe gave them beatings so bad that entire empires and armies desintegrated and begged for peice.

Need anymore painful and humiliating history lessons that backfire on you spectacularly?

Why so upset,

Muslims have plenty of land that was once Christian or other eveywhere from North Africa to Indonesia, Constantinople the jewel of Christendom is muslim still

Im not saying muslims have not been imperial

Im saying your asking why muslims are here in the west, when the west goes everywhere

France & UK for example werw colonial occupiers they abused, murdered, killed in africa or asia etc so why shouldn't we from asia or africa now turn up in these colonial countries?

The same with rest of colonial Europe?

Im not against Christianity, im just pointing out that outside the odd jesus freak here and there theze are post Christian societies

 

[ptldM3]

Muslims have plenty of land that was once Christian or other eveywhere from North Africa to Indonesia, Constantinople the jewel of Christendom is muslim still

Im not saying muslims have not been imperial

Im saying your asking why muslims are here in the west, when the west goes everywhere

I’m not asking why Muslims are in the west, nor does it bother as long as they are respectful, peiceful and productive members of society. Plenty of Muslims immigrate and respect their host society and eventually even assimilate; likewise many do not.

My problem is with Muslims that show disgust for Christianity (like many here have) and disregard the values, laws and norms of their host society. If it is so bad, they can always go back to wherever they came from. They will also never have to see those evil infidel Christians because most have fled or were killed. They will mostly never have to deal with “sluts” because many women are forced to cover up and can not even go out without males following them around. Many Muslims love sharia but don’t actually want to live under it but for some strange reason many try to implement forms of it in the west.

 

[hussain0216]

My problem is with Muslims that show disgust for Christianity (like many here have)

We live in a free society why cant we be disgusted with Christianity or any other ideology whether it be socialism, conservatism or overt liberalism?