Assalam u alaikum,
The abusive words used in daily life are thought to be pleasing and nothing too big.
But we dont even know, that even our tongue complains while repeating them. This isint pleasing as it may feel,
but is pleasing to Satan. This makes us much more degraded in eyes of Allah(SWT).
The punishments for each word is too harsh too.
There are 2 main punishments.
1) (Per Word) Your Salah for 40 days wouldnt be accepted by the Almighty.
2) (Per Word) On your grave, you will get one additional scorpion. This means, if you said some 10 words, you would get 10 scorpions. The more words you spoke, the more your grave gets buried in scorpions.
This punishment isint for anger and fighting, but also for accidently slipping of the word and/or using it for joy in common everyday talk.
I like to advice you to share this note with those whom you feel are excedding their limiits.
Together, we can make a change.
This is also in hadith:
: Farman Hazrat ALI R.A.:
"Tum Jo Ek GaLi Mazaaq aur Ghussey main Dete Ho. Us se Tumhari Qabar Main Ek Bichoo Banta Hy"
Another one as follows:
Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the scale of the believer than Good Manners. Allah hates one who utters foul or coarse language. So beware of long, sharp and dangerous tounge.
Narrated by Abu’l-Darda’ r.a:
The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم
said:
''When a person curses something, the curse ascends to heaven, and the gates of heaven are closed to it. Then it comes back down to earth and the gates of earth are closed to it. Then it looks right and left, and if it does not find anywhere to go, it goes to the one who was cursed, and if he deserves it (it befalls him), otherwise it goes back to the one who uttered it.”
Narrated by Abu Dawood in his Sunan.
The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم
said:
“The believer is not one who slanders, curses or utters foul or obscene speech.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi