Before you sign the Nikkah - Read it. Know your Rights.

[Timur]

I got a joke for you guys it may be an old one but its good

wife: ''Honey do you see me in your dreams''?
husband: ''No''
Wife: ''Why not ?''
Husband: '' I read Ayat-ul Kursi before i go sleep''.

 

[Zibago]

It’s important to know what rights you have, especially as a Woman.

Some are interested in knowing what it says but end up being pressurised by their families to sign it off and not bother with the legalities.

This needs to stop.

The so-called ‘legalities’ that are waived off are rights granted to women and men by the state which provide them with the necessary protection and alternatives they need in case things do not work in their favour. I understand that no one wants to picture a red flag even before they have begun this beautiful journey, but what most of us fail to understand is that it’s only before you sign the document that you have the power to protect your rights.

Once that document is signed, like any other contract, it becomes legally binding between the man and the woman and cannot be altered. It should not be treated as anything other than how you would treat a normal contract, which is why it is essential that the man and the woman read the document fully and objectively discuss what is to be done with the different clauses.

You must be wondering what clauses I am talking about. Let’s deal with them in order.

Clause 13-16 deals with the mehr or dower. Mehr is a gift given to the wife by her husband – the amount or value of which must be agreed upon at the time of the nikkah. You must first specify the exact amount or value of the mehr and the form in which it will be given (cash, jewellery or property). You must also specify when it will be given, whether it will be given promptly (mu’ajjal) or whether it will be given at a later stage (ghair mu’wajjal). These may come across as unnecessary details but it is absolutely essential for this to be sorted out beforehand and included in the document to avoid disputes at a later stage.

Clause 17 includes any special terms and conditions put forward by the man or woman independently. So, for example, if the woman wants her husband to pay her Rs10,000 every month as maintenance, it should be put down in this clause. One may even stipulate that there will be no form of violence between the parties. A particular amount is then specified to serve as compensation in case an incident takes place. Basically, in this clause, the man and woman can put down whatever conditions they want so long as they are within the boundaries of the law. You can even specify who takes custody of the children in case there is a separation or divorce.

Clause 18 is a very important clause, which allows the man to delegate the right of ‘divorce’ (talaq-e-tafweez) to the woman. This is completely different from khula and does not affect the right of khula in any way. It allows the woman to seek talaq from her husband legally. Having this right will allow the woman to seek talaq without the need to go to court and will allow her to keep her mehr. This is a clause favourable to both the husband and wife as the husband can put conditions on the wife’s right to divorce.

Clause 19 asks if there are any conditions on the husband’s right to divorce the wife. The woman can put conditions such as financial compensation, provision of a house etc. as a restriction on the husband’s right to divorce. Through clause 20, the woman may specify the details and documentation of mehr, maintenance and financial support. This will act as proof in case there is a dispute between the husband and wife at a later stage. However, it does not mean that the woman is not entitled to more than what has been specified; it should be considered as a minimum requirement that the husband has to fulfil.

The last of these important clauses is clause 21 that includes the restrictions on the man’s right to contract further marriages while still married to his first wife. This clause states that if a man is already married then, under the Muslim Family Law Ordinance 1961, he must show that he has obtained permission from the Union Council to marry another woman. The Union Council in turn requires proof that the permission of the existing wife/wives has been obtained.

It is apparent from these clauses and their existence on the nikkah nama that these are essential rights that we all have a claim to and it is only a matter of taking the initiative of reading the document and putting down these rights in written form. It sounds and appears formal but it is there for your protection.

You must know your nikkah nama before signing it.

Source: https://blogs.tribune.com.pk/story/39538/you-should-know-your-nikkah-nama-before-signing-it/

Good thing most Pakistani women dont know these things they are more interested in colour of their friends dress such difficult topics are discussed in few minutes of Nikah #priorities

 

[Valar.]

I got a joke for you guys it may be an old one but its good

wife: ''Honey do you see me in your dreams''?
husband: ''No''
Wife: ''Why not ?''
Husband: '' I read Ayat-ul Kursi before i go sleep''.

He probably slept on couch that night. Lol

 

[El Sidd]

Lol, I'm marriage phobic. I think it's called gamophobia.

You should be given priority boarding and priority parking and other stuff.

Silent sufferers like you need not be ashamed due to peer pressure or when cultural norms threaten you.

#MotorbikeMarch vs #CycleMarch

@Divergent and @Pluralist genuine idea?

not all husbands are the poor ones

The first 9 days.

Its all poor after that.

Lol

 

[Valar.]

You should be given priority boarding and priority parking and other stuff.

Silent sufferers like you need not be ashamed due to peer pressure or when cultural norms threaten you.

#MotorbikeMarch vs #CycleMarch

@Divergent and @Pluralist genuine idea?

I'm flattered but no need for all that special treatment. Just, all the lovely ladies out there should stop sending me Rishtas all the time.

 

[El Sidd]

He probably slept on couch that night. Lol

My lawyers say its domestic abuse if they are forced that way.

Nikkah contract should add this.
While sharmeen choses warm your meal yourself. Obaid could send her to jail.

Hahaha

I'm flattered but no need for all that special treatment. Just, all the lovely ladies out there should stop sending me Rishtas all the time.

You are a Saint

 

[Divergent]

Happy Wife = Happy Life. It’s proven theory.

 

[El Sidd]

Happy Wife = Happy Life. It’s proven theory.

If the theory was proven it would become a fact.

Like how blonde are you seriously.

 

[N.Siddiqui]

You should be given priority boarding and priority parking and other stuff.

Silent sufferers like you need not be ashamed due to peer pressure or when cultural norms threaten you.

Since four are allowed he can weigh his chance on the 4rth one, bypassing the first three.

or consult S.Sharif, heard is married the umpteenth times( 9 times or so)...or contact none other than Imran Khan, after every marriage he turns into a bachelor, he seems to like this confirmed bachelor theory...

 

[El Sidd]

Happy Wife = Happy Life. It’s proven theory.

This is once again that virgin wedding mantra people need to understand.

And its sexist too.

How old are you?

 

[Divergent]

If the theory was proven it would become a fact.

Like how blonde are you seriously.

I speak in a language for you and your kind to understand, but here you go:
https://m.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/happy-wife-happy-life_n_5843596

 

[El Sidd]

Since four are allowed he can weigh his chance on the 4rth one, bypassing the first three.

or consult S.Sharif, heard is married the umpteenth times( 9 times or so)...or contact none other than Imran Khan, after every marriage he turns into a bachelor, he seems to like this confirmed bachelor theory...

Imran is not a stable bhudda that i know.

But the concept of marriage is the same even if you do one or 4. Which by the way should be in the nikkah contract settled.

 

[Divergent]

@El Sidd you need stop trolling it’s annoying. Your name on my notifications is not a pleasing sight.

 

[Valar.]

My lawyers say its domestic abuse if they are forced that way.

Nikkah contract should add this.
While sharmeen choses warm your meal yourself. Obaid could send her to jail.

Hahaha



You are a Saint

Poor men. Forced to sleep with wife then forced to sleep on couch.

 

[El Sidd]

I speak in a language for you and your kind to understand, but here you go:
https://m.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/happy-wife-happy-life_n_5843596

You speak rudementary blonde.

This is just implying women mess up marriages if they are unhappy.

Selfish nature of women is not something to base marriage article upon.

@El Sidd you need stop trolling it’s annoying. Your name on my notifications is not a pleasing sight.

Ok
Sorry