Sorry buddy there is no lesson here except that you got caught with your pants down. If your government had guts they would have taken questions from your own press at least, they stuck to premade presser (twice in the course of the escalation) and scaddadled!!. Utter humiliation you cant pass this under the cloud cover. It happened and is now a part of history.
That is not true they do not disclose it.... but we know it because high rank officers join in the namaz e janaaza. Rest assured benefits to our soldiers are higher. Its too late to change history now and Abhinandan was disclaimed just like Jadav. Only when it came out public (both cases, infact India refused to accept Jadav and acknowledged him only after his death penalty. This is also a matter of record in the trial), that India had to accept its humiliation.