Gendered violence is a learned behavior upheld and reinforced by a broader social context (our family, community, a country’s cultural expectations and popular culture).
Social censure (that is, public repudiation of violent behaviours and/or perpetrators) is among the most effective means of preventing violence .
We need an educational shift which would teach boys and girls about mutual respect and boundaries, as well as the concept of affirmative/enthusiastic consent, where “yes means yes” would replace “no means no”.
A community-wide effort to shun and censure men who perpetrate, brag about or support violence against women.
There are two types of rapists:
opportunistic rapists, who are mostly sex-seeking rapists who takes advantage of a lack of clear consent via coercion or by virtue of their victims having borderline or overtly impaired states of consciousness;
and
sadistic rapists, for them rape is a deliberate weapon which is central to the act, for whom the lack of a woman’s pleasure isn’t a bug, but a feature.
It is opportunistic rapists at whom ideas about enthusiastic consent are directed. Sadist rapists belong to another catagory where cure is more of a psychological approach on individual basis and cant be described here.
A majority of rape happens from men who are not able to control their need for sex.
To educate we need to be explicit and insist on the fact that all men are capable to control their desire for sex.
And thanks to
@Gufi to opening this thread as promised.
