Build people up, don’t tear them down – Something ‘Cyber-bullies’ need to learn

[Dawood Ibrahim]

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By:
Aneesa Tajammal




29-Sep-16














Internet has given a whole new dimension to bullying. Sitting in the comforts of your homes, hidden behind screens one can conveniently bash people with hate and negativity. Posting offensive comments, attempting to demean others, passing terrible remarks on physical appearances and discrediting people for humanly errors is easy, but appalling to say the least.

So here are my humble suggestions to all bullies of the internet who feel the urge to insult people on the web.

Have you ever pondered over the idea that each person you pass by in real life or stalk over the internet is struggling in ways you do not know, fighting battles that you’re not aware of or perhaps trying to get back up from falls you have never experienced, and the last thing you should be doing is feeding your negativity and hate into their lives.

A wise man once said that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. So here’s a thought, if you don’t like someone’s work, do not degrade them. You must realise that each piece of work takes a lot of effort and guts to present to the public, and not all of us like the same things, so if you don’t like it and you have no constructive feedback, please ignore and move on.

If you don’t find someone’s physical appearance appealing, please don’t go about shaming them for how God created them. You need to know that every person’s definition of beauty is different, and your opinion on someone’s appearance holds no value. Don’t make the effort to pinpoint flaws in people, because we all are uniquely flawed.

If you don’t approve of the fame and love a celebrity or any person for that matter is receiving, don’t attempt to balance it out with your hate. Not everyone appreciates people according to your standards. Learn politer ways of voicing your disapproval.

The list of what you shouldn’t be doing is rather long, but I’ll stop here assuming you got the point.

Now, let me share with you some things you should be doing. You should work on yourself, become a better person, work harder, influence people with your positivity, because trust me positivity is contagious. Water your side of the grass. Self-hatred is already a problem for many, instead of fuelling it, help them in appreciating themselves and tell them that they are worth more than they think. Build people up, don’t tear them down.

I understand your urge to be mean is too high, but try being nice for a change. Make someone’s day by your positivity and encouragement, and watch as positivity makes its way back to your life.


http://dailytimes.com.pk/blog/29-Se...down-something-internet-bullies-need-to-learn

 

[Joe Shearer]

Yes, but.....

1. Mis-statements of facts;
2. Omission of facts altogether and a message full of patriotic, or religious, or social, or national emotion;
3. Vulgarising an opponent indirectly, on patriotic, or religious, or social, or national grounds;
4. Attacking an opponent directly, on some grounds or no grounds whatsoever;
5. Attacking an opponent's family or relations;
6. Using abusive terms about an entire nation, or a religion, or a society;
7. Insinuating guileful or mendacious behaviour about another member;
8. Using vulgar language about a leader who cannot defend himself or herself not being present;
9. Using vulgar language about a member of society whose views one finds unacceptable

All these should lead to the application of pressure to make the recipient give up these bad habits.