Are you sizing her up?

[Markus]

Are you sizing her up?

A category of women willingly takes advantage of a man's weakness for the female anatomy, seeing nothing wrong with using their sexuality as bait...

Sizing her up, are you? Ah ha, and you think she doesn't have any idea what you are up to? Think again. For, she knows. A woman has eyes at the back of her head when it comes to a man looking at her in a particular manner. Her antenna starts beeping and she reacts or responds, depending on how she feels about you!

So knock those eyeballs back in and roll your lolling tongue right back. For, she could be having a good laugh at your expense. And, the woman who is with you? She certainly knows what you are up to as well and is just waiting for you to turn and look her way. Seen the new Anne French ad? A guy swivels around to look at a pair of silky smooth legs that walk into a restaurant. His eyes follow the legs as they are crossed sensuously, one on top of the other. As he turns back to his female companion, he is greeted with a resounding slap. Camera pans to Kareena; she winks at the girl, who winks back, and they exchange a smile. Kareena looks into the camera and says, "Breakup karwana ho ya gorgeous skin paana ho, naya…..Anne French Roll. Life is on a roll!

An apt representation of reality. The only one who's left feeling the fool is the man now alone at the table. The women have conspired, taken advantage of his natural male weakness and played a trick on him. And, why not? If you go around begging for it, anyone would take advantage. If you show your interest so blatantly, you are bound to be taken for a ride!

If men have been accused of sexual harassment at the workplace, women have their own brand of harassment which uses their own sexuality as their most potent weapon. This is "the raunch culture" that Ariel Levy blasts in her book Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the rise of Raunch Culture. She blames present American culture squarely for encouraging women to objectify themselves, because of which young girls believe they have to be "the hottest" and "the sexiest" rather than "the most accomplished".

"If Male Chauvinist Pigs were men who regarded women as pieces of meat, we would outdo them and be Female Chauvinist Pigs: women who make sex objects of other women and of ourselves," says Ariel, dripping sarcasm in her book. In doing so women seem to strangely imagine they are furthering the cause of Feminism. In reducing the amount of clothing we wear, in piercing our navels and whatever else, and in exposing cleavages and thongs, we imagine we are exhibiting the freedom of choice and spirit of independence. As if in the display of skin and the stupefying effect it seems to have on men, we are empowered.

And men seem not to understand the game in which they are led by the …er…nose, willingly enough.

If the boss is lascivious, there is a certain kind of girl who will take full advantage of his weakness and think nothing of exploiting it. She will string him along, flutter her eyelashes, smile enchantingly and give him wet dreams for a long, long time. She may even throw in some suggestive jokes on the cellphone or a naughty message just as he gets ready for bed at night. And not just the lascivious ones, even men who are obviously in awe of pretty young things and all but pant at their sight, are likely to be led down the garden path by a girl skilled enough at the art, with no compunction.

The middle-aged Indian male is a sitting duck for the Lipstick Feminists who think nothing of using their sexuality as bait and consider sexual allure as synonymous with women empowerment. So make no mistake. When she leans over to hand you the papers, she knows exactly where your eyes are straying and staying stuck. When she bends to pick up the papers that have slipped to the floor, she knows you are trying to decipher the tattooed words just above her butt cleavage or admiring the colour of her thong. And when she is explaining the intricacies of her labour on the project you gave her, she knows as you stroke your chin thoughtfully, you are more focused on the images playing out in your mind rather than her words!

Despite your words of encouragement and lavish praise, she knows it's not her work that inspires those words of admiration, but your hope of what else she may be willing to do for you. The younger the girl, the more the older boss is flattered by her attentions. And if she knows this, why then would she not take advantage of the guy's slippery morality to further her own cause? She may or may not give you what you want but she will certainly string you along and milk you for what it's worth!

As women shed clothes and inhibitions, Ariel complains in her book, "Spectacles of naked ladies have moved from seedy side streets to center-stage, where everyone -men and women - can watch them in broad daylight. Playboy and its ilk are being 'embraced by young women in a curious way in a post-feminist world', to borrow the words of Hugh Hefner."

However, much as all men are not predators, all women out there are not using their sexuality to lure men either. Most of us, men as well as women, just do our own thing....

Source: Are you sizing her up? : Living : Vinita Dawra Nangia : TOI Blogs

 

[SMC]

So India is importing American slut/manipulation culture too?

 

[r3alist]

interesting article

in the observer magazine today there was a front page headline which said "women are not pieces of meat" (or words to that effect) - which was implying the feminist argument about women being objectified etc etc

yet its curious that these feminists seem to have no issue with (the many) women who are more than happy to objectify themselves as sex objects, so what gives feminists?

 

[gurjot]

i read this today in sunday TOI.the question is how to get rid of this???

 

[SMC]

interesting article

in the observer magazine today there was a front page headline which said "women are not pieces of meat" (or words to that effect) - which was implying the feminist argument about women being objectified etc etc

yet its curious that these feminists seem to have no issue with (the many) women who are more than happy to objectify themselves as sex objects, so what gives feminists?

Feminists and a good number of women (western women in particular) are essentially hypocrites and full of double standards.

What you stated above is a good example.

But here's another good one.

Women in that part of the world (and now increasingly in our part of the world too) expect equality when it suits them. However, remember that equality doesn't always work in one's interests. When equality doesn't work in their interests, these women want chivalry --- and more than that, they expect it. Not only that, these women are hopelessly addicted to these double standards -- and unfortunately a good number of men willingly oblige to these double standards.

Remember, what they want is selective equality -- they want to be equal when it suits their interests.

 

[r3alist]

Feminists and a good number of women (western in particular) are essentially hypocrites and full of double standards.

What you stated above is a good example.

But here's another good one.

Women in that part of the world (and now increasingly in our part of the world too) expect equality when it suits them. However, remember that equality doesn't always work in one's interests. When equality doesn't work in their interests, these women want chivalry --- and more than that, they expect it. Not only that, these women are hopelessly addicted to these double standards -- and unfortunately a good number of men willingly oblige to these double standards.

well women should be treated equally, in that regard there is no issue


but the double standard i guess comes in when on the one hand some feminists moan about how women are objectified and over sexualised...yet these same feminists ignore the women who either do it themselves, more than happy to be a part of the system or actively engage in this "objectifying" themselves - this is what i struggle to understand.

 

[somebozo]

astagfiruallah..u injuns in ramadan..One thing for sure..I have seen Indian girls are getting really spoiled..some have cross boundries of so called "european bayhayai"

 

[SMC]

well women should be treated equally, in that regard there is no issue


but the double standard i guess comes in when on the one hand some feminists moan about how women are objectified and over sexualised...yet these same feminists ignore the women who either do it themselves, more than happy to be a part of the system or actively engage in this "objectifying" themselves - this is what i struggle to understand.

I understand what you're saying but let me make it clear what I am trying to say. I am not sure you understood what I am saying.

What I am saying is that women choose when they want to be treated equally. Many men think that they treat women equally, but they don't. They have been trained to treat women equally when women want to be treated equally, and they have been trained to give them special treatment (i.e. chivalry) when women want special treatment.

Men tend to be oblivious to this -- they don't see how they are being played by women. To make things worse, many men kowtow to this kind of behaviour and even worse, expect other men to be the same way.

 

[desiman]

So India is importing American slut/manipulation culture too?

what do you mean by that exactly ?

 

[SMC]

what do you mean by that exactly ?

I think you know what I mean by the slut culture.

What I mean by manipulation is - using your body to gain things you otherwise will have to work harder for to gain.

Another form of manipulation that women do is legal system (i.e. court) manipulation. I won't talk about that since it's not pertinent to the topic.