Dawood Ibrahim
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By Webmaster - December 14, 2016 0 75
VERY often we see people who are very vehement and fixed about what they want. Well, there’s nothing wrong with that I guess, but what they forget is that when other people are involved, their opinions also matter. But their cry is, “my way, or no way!”
Very often this person has seen reasonable success in life, and bloated by this feeling that all this success is entirely of his or own making, they dictate their wishes to everybody. Unfortunately, what I’ve seen is that the person who suffers is this same man or woman who stops listening to others. He or she walks out of meetings, resigns from social organizations, where people did not agree with his or her point to view, and spend their days in loneliness complaining about those who did not listen to them.
There are two lessons I’ve learnt watching such people: The first is, however sure you are about your own idea, remember the other person is also sure about what he or she is talking about, and just as they listened to your thoughts, you have to listen to theirs with an open and respectful mind.
An open mind means a mind which is able to say honestly that the other person might be having a better idea. There’s nothing wrong in seeing someone else’s point of view, but the person who says, “My way or no way,” thinks that he is being purposely put down. He feels victimized. He is actually an insecure person who doesn’t have much self-esteem and immediately reacts with anger.
I don’t think we should be like them, so become a team person! One who accepts the fact that someone else’s idea could be better. Secondly learn the art of skillful persuasion. Instead of commanding, start suggesting. Instead of giving orders, plant seeds of thought in the minds of others. Make them think. Sometimes even let them think it is their idea.
I have seen the ‘my way or no way’ person leading a miserable life, and sadly their family suffers, because the man who is angry with the outside world is a monster at home.“No going out today!” he tells his children “We’ll go for a holiday only to Kashmir!” he tells his wife. There is no discussion. There is no gentle persuasion or even explaining his decision to his family. It’s either his way or no way! Sadly, as children grow up, they distance themselves from such parents! Dads and also mothers learn to win your children through love not fear!
So, if you have such a stubborn streak in you it’s not too late to change. Build up your self-esteem. Realize that giving in to another point of view is not a bad thing. In fact people will respect you more as you start respecting their views..!
— Email:bobsbanter@gmail.com
http://pakobserver.net/my-way-or-no-way/
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VERY often we see people who are very vehement and fixed about what they want. Well, there’s nothing wrong with that I guess, but what they forget is that when other people are involved, their opinions also matter. But their cry is, “my way, or no way!”
Very often this person has seen reasonable success in life, and bloated by this feeling that all this success is entirely of his or own making, they dictate their wishes to everybody. Unfortunately, what I’ve seen is that the person who suffers is this same man or woman who stops listening to others. He or she walks out of meetings, resigns from social organizations, where people did not agree with his or her point to view, and spend their days in loneliness complaining about those who did not listen to them.
There are two lessons I’ve learnt watching such people: The first is, however sure you are about your own idea, remember the other person is also sure about what he or she is talking about, and just as they listened to your thoughts, you have to listen to theirs with an open and respectful mind.
An open mind means a mind which is able to say honestly that the other person might be having a better idea. There’s nothing wrong in seeing someone else’s point of view, but the person who says, “My way or no way,” thinks that he is being purposely put down. He feels victimized. He is actually an insecure person who doesn’t have much self-esteem and immediately reacts with anger.
I don’t think we should be like them, so become a team person! One who accepts the fact that someone else’s idea could be better. Secondly learn the art of skillful persuasion. Instead of commanding, start suggesting. Instead of giving orders, plant seeds of thought in the minds of others. Make them think. Sometimes even let them think it is their idea.
I have seen the ‘my way or no way’ person leading a miserable life, and sadly their family suffers, because the man who is angry with the outside world is a monster at home.“No going out today!” he tells his children “We’ll go for a holiday only to Kashmir!” he tells his wife. There is no discussion. There is no gentle persuasion or even explaining his decision to his family. It’s either his way or no way! Sadly, as children grow up, they distance themselves from such parents! Dads and also mothers learn to win your children through love not fear!
So, if you have such a stubborn streak in you it’s not too late to change. Build up your self-esteem. Realize that giving in to another point of view is not a bad thing. In fact people will respect you more as you start respecting their views..!
— Email:bobsbanter@gmail.com
http://pakobserver.net/my-way-or-no-way/
@Jugger
