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US legalises gay marriage while Indian families rape their kids to 'correct' their sexual orientation

By Tarique Anwar and A Saye Sekhar

Delhi/Hyderabad: It was supposed to be a normal summer vacation for school boy Himadri. He was happy to be home among parents and friends. He didn’t mind when his parents asked him to spend time at a relative’s place in a distant village. Then the horror unfolded. He was sexually assaulted repeatedly at the relative’s place. The knowledge that his father had asked for it was worse than the mental and physical trauma he had to undergo after the experience.


Now better known as Dr Himadri Roy, Associate Professor at the School of Gender and Development Studies, Indira Gandhi National Open University, New Delhi, he said he was subjected to what is being called ‘corrective rape’ these days. “My father knew about my sexual behaviour but my mother was unaware of it. I was sent to the relatives place to get ‘cured’. When I returned, I described the ordeal before my mother. She supported and encouraged me to go ahead with my choice,” Roy told Firstpost.

In India, he said, the practice of corrective rape is rampant, but surprisingly not discussed much. “When I discussed my experience with my friends I found most of them had suffered the same treatment in childhood. It is not much visible in India because the affected persons generally do not come forward. Either they run away from their homes or kill themselves. Victims also refrain from taking legal recourse because the perpetrators are their parents and the accused are often their cousins and sometimes even mothers,” he said.


A lesbian girl, who requested not to reveal his identity, revealed she was raped by one of her paternal cousins to ‘correct’ her sexual orientation.

“I belong to a conservative family of Kerala. When my parents told me that I would be married to my paternal cousin, I refused and told them I am not interested in men. At that time, I was 19. I was tortured and abused for a long time. One day, I was raped by my cousin and would-be husband when I was sleeping. It was done with the consent of my parents. I was beaten up by them when I resisted and cried. I was constantly pressured to marry him but when they failed in their effort, they used force to get me married to him. Left with no option, I fled home and am earning my living by working in a BPO in the national capital,” she told Firstpost.

Deepthi Tadanki, who has embarked on a movie project - Satyavati - dealing with the issue, said she has stumbled upon several such instances which actually triggered the idea of making a film on this delicate subject. Deepthi has highlighted this among other hard facts in a YouTube fundraiser video for crowdsourcing the necessary funds required to complete the movie.

This cruel form of ‘corrective rape’ has its moorings, as per the available records, in South Africa, where it was perpetrated by the family members of lesbians or gays. The goal is to punish the “abnormal” behaviour. An American researcher Clare Carter has photographed over 45 victims of ‘corrective rape’ in South Africa and chronicled their sordid stories since 2011, according to The Independent.

A transgender activist in Hyderabad, Vyjayanti Vasanta Mogli, told Firstpost that at least 15 cases of corrective rape have come to the knowledge of those working with the LGBT communities in the last five years. The cases have seen the light of the day, just because the victims have sought the help of the community to rescue them from their homes and liberate from the torture.

Out of the 15, four cases were of lesbian women and not one of them is ready to report or litigate. The first one was actually seeking rescue. The remaining 11 were of trans-boys or trans-men (born with female body). The transgenders are usually gender-dysphoric and they have varying levels of dysphoria, according to Mogli. Gender-dysphoria, as explained by Mogli, is a condition where the mindset continues to reject the body – feminine mindset in male body and the other way round too.

Some of them hail from middleclass families and approached the LGBT communities seeking relief from post-traumatic stress disorder brought upon by repeated corrective rapes. “While such attempts of coercion can be handled in societies at the lower economic stratum, thanks to their unequivocal opposition to physical dominance,” Mogli said “survival strategies end where the middle class morality begins.” The victims/survivors of “corrective rape”, especially those belonging to middle class and upper middle class, are subjected to very high degree of emotional blackmail from family members, she added.
Ironically, none of the 15 has even tried to approach the police. They don’t trust the police. Mogli quotes instances wherein policemen “lustily chided” the victims asking if the latter were aware of rape or should “we commit one and demonstrate to you.”


Outspoken gender and sexuality rights activist Gunjan Sharma describes the theory of ‘corrective rape’ “ridiculous” and “repulsive”. She raises question on the need to straighten the sexual behaviour of a person. “What is the need to ‘cure’ homosexuals by applying an age-old theory of ‘corrective rape’ when homosexuality is not a disease?” she asked suggesting the society to respect the orientation of a person and give him due respect.

“To me, ‘corrective rape’ is a violent and repulsive idea. This traumatic event not only threatens the core of an individual, both in physical and psychological terms. Surviving the experience of being raped and denied any support and compassion for the situation they are being forced into, just about anyone would feel insecure and lose their self-confidence, which further gives rise to fear of persecutions and threats,” she told Firstpost.

Furthermore, she added, this abhorrent idea of a family member doing a ‘service’ to ‘cure’ the gay person in the family is revolting at so many levels. “It completely smacks of a misplaced sense of power and is just another ghastly idea of maintaining patriarchal paradigms,” felt Sharma.

US legalises gay marriage while Indian families rape their kids to 'correct' their sexual orientation - Firstpost

Parents use 'corrective rape' to 'straight'en gays - The Times of India
 
The US and India should learn from Bangladesh about marriage laws.
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Bangladesh Is One of the Worst Countries for Child Marriage — for One Horrible Reason

Bangladesh is one of the worst countries in the world for child marriage. Roughly 66% of Bangladeshi girls aremarried off before they're 18 years old.

However, while in other countries issues like tribal customs and poverty often fuel child marriage, a Human Rights Watch report finds Bangladesh's reasons are perhaps even more horrifying: There's an uncontrollable epidemic of rape and sexual abuse.

According to the report, published earlier this month, in Bangladesh there is "strong social pressures to get girls married, in part to prevent them from having a romantic or sexual relationship before marriage."

Given the prevalence of rape in Bangladesh, parents rush to marry their daughters early to minimize the likelihood they will get abused or raped by a someone other than a husband. It is extremely difficult, if not impossible, for fathers to marry off daughters who have been victims of sexual abuse since they're considered "marred" or "dirty."

"There is so much sexual harassment. Parents who are better off who get their daughters married [young] usually do so because of sexual harassment," an NGO worker told the report's researchers.

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With such high rates of sexual assault and child marriage, the problems compound one another, and each gets worse. In rural parts of the country, for example, roughly a third of women's first sexual experience was forced upon them, according to the World Health Organization. Not only are girls more likely to be sexually harassed, but they are penalized further by being married off at an increasingly younger age because of it.

"Eve teasing": In Bangladesh, sexual harassment, known locally as "eve teasing," is a huge problem. More than 10 women or girls are victims of acid attacks every week and statistics on rape are difficult to pin down, but equally egregious. In fact, the problem is so profound, it's been known to drive women to suicide.

"Some victims find suicide is the only avenue that enables them to escape this social pandemic," Sultana Kamal, lawyer and executive director of human rights organization Ain-O-Salish Kendra, told BBC in 2010.

"'Eve teasing' [has] become an often brutal form of sexual harassment that can result in permanent physical and psychological damage and profoundly alter the course of a girl's life," according to UNICEF. "The harassment manifests itself in different ways, ranging from verbal abuse and sexual innuendo to abduction, acid-throwing and rape."

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Rather than tackling the problem of sexual harassment, common social responses ultimately interfere with girls' basic human rights. "Some parents choose to keep their daughters at home rather than send them to school, or they marry girls off at an early age in an attempt to protect their honor and safety," UNICEF reports.

"In [the fathers'] minds, it's better the husband do it than someone else," Jayati Ghosh, social activist and an economics professor at Jawaharlal Nehru University, told Mic in April.

A systemic problem: The prevalence of child marriage in Bangladesh is twice as high as it is for developing countries on average. Approximately one-third of girls in the developing world are married by the time they're 18, in Bangladesh, that number is two-thirds.

The country's female prime minister, Sheikh Hasina, has vowed to tackle the issue of child marriage in the past,promising to end the marriage of children under 15 by 2021 and teenagers under 18 by 2041. However, a draft of the Child Marriage Restraint Act 2014 in September, which Hasina approved, suggested lowering the legal age for marriage from 18 to 16 for girls.

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Child marriage is deeply damaging to a society, violating human rights on an individual level and hindering development on a collectivist level. It has "many harmful consequences, including health dangers associated with early pregnancy, lower educational achievement for girls who marry earlier, a higher incidence of spousal violence, and an increased likelihood of poverty," according to the Human Rights Watch report.

While the the problem is particularly egregious in Bangladesh, it is important remember this problem plagues millions of girls across the world. Policymakers and national leaders, like Hasina, would be wise to prioritize the eradication of this inhumane practice amongst other development goals.

Bangladesh Is One of the Worst Countries for Child Marriage — for One Horrible Reason - Mic
 
The US and India should learn from Bangladesh about marriage laws.
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Bangladesh Is One of the Worst Countries for Child Marriage — for One Horrible Reason

everytime, u wanna respond to them, your iq would drop by 1 percent...so better to leave them on their own. Their track record speaks for itself.
 
Ignore the troll brigade.

This actually is a little shocking considering the extreme steps the parents are taking. This goes way beyond the "Gay Conversion Therapy" in U.S.

I was of the opinion these matters were considered taboo in India like in the rest of the sub-continent, and remained as such in the closet. Its not uncommon to see an unmarried man or woman in Bangladesh. However, the Indian folks are certainly going at the extremes to make sure they get their grand kids to put it lightly.

Take the example of Modi, he dumped his wife now living a single life steeped in Saffron beliefs.
 
Ignore the troll brigade.

This actually is a little shocking considering the extreme steps the parents are taking. This goes way beyond the "Gay Conversion Therapy" in U.S.

I was of the opinion these matters were considered taboo in India like in the rest of the sub-continent, and remained as such in the closet. Its not uncommon to see an unmarried man or woman in Bangladesh. However, the Indian folks are certainly going at the extremes to make sure they get their grand kids to put it lightly.

Take the example of Modi, he dumped his wife now living a single life steeped in Saffron beliefs.
We are all gay now. It is our strategy to reduce population.

NOTE: The answer is to the tune of your IQ. Please let me know if you fail to understand what I wrote.
 
Ignore the troll brigade.

This actually is a little shocking considering the extreme steps the parents are taking. This goes way beyond the "Gay Conversion Therapy" in U.S.

I was of the opinion these matters were considered taboo in India like in the rest of the sub-continent, and remained as such in the closet. Its not uncommon to see an unmarried man or woman in Bangladesh. However, the Indian folks are certainly going at the extremes to make sure they get their grand kids to put it lightly.

Take the example of Modi, he dumped his wife now living a single life steeped in Saffron beliefs.
Hmm.. Did something hit your head Bong-ladeshi :sick:
 
wonder if Indian Govt considers sex change operations as a solution to Homosexuality or gender dysphoria

Remember watching on DD interviews of children who had undergone sex change
 
While ppl were busy reading news about gay marriages and r@pes, US legislation passed TPP. what a timing!!!
Meanwhile on FB ppl switched to rainbow colored DPs without realizing they were supporting gay marriages. Lol
 
Hmm.. Did something hit your head Bong-ladeshi :sick:

Actually yes, especially the news that parents are sexually assaulting their kids and/or having the relatives do the work.

My friend it is pretty disturbing news.

Satyavati

 
Marriage: the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.

I cannot imagine a kid with either two fathers or two mothers
 
Marriage: the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.

I cannot imagine a kid with either two fathers or two mothers

Kid with two fathers or two mothers has it easy !!

Imagine a kid with father name Bruce Jennar, then one day Dad is Dad no more, Dad is now Mummy, s*it like that takes years of therapy !!
 
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