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Hi ,
I belong to a conservative area and I study in a Co education education institute and here's a female Teacger that keeps eyeing on me because of my appearance . All other girls wear hijab or daupatta but I don't wear it in class and I always come there with open hair and little to good makeup . Other than that , I donot have any flirting or unprofessional attitude to male students or teachers , I'm the most outspoken about my views in class , always doing my assignment on time nd I'm regular too .. but this teacher's stares and judgements are bothering me . She always find chance to give lecture on hijab and point on me that I donot wear hijab and always looking at me with dubious eyes when I'm on phone .
Once I told her in the face that my not doing hijab has nothing to do with my education and for me , religion is my personal matter . But she is still keeping pointing . I hate this all . I don't want to be disrespectful to her , I don't like this pin pointing . What to do .
 
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Hi ,
I belong to a conservative area and I study in a Co education education institute and here's a female Teacger that keeps eyeing on me because of my appearance . All other girls wear hijab or daupatta but I don't wear it in class and I always come there with open hair and little to good makeup . Other than that , I donot have any flirting or unprofessional attitude to male students or teachers , I'm the most outspoken about my views in class , always doing my assignment on time nd I'm regular too .. but this teacher's stares and judgements are bothering me . She always find chance to give lecture on hijab and point on me that I donot wear hijab and always looking at me with dubious eyes when I'm on phone .
Once I told her in the face that my not doing hijab has nothing to do with my education and for me , religion is my personal matter . But she is still keeping pointing . I hate this all . I don't want to be disrespectful to her , I don't like this pin pointing . What to do .
Be nice to her. Be observant and help her in need.
This will tear her mind apart.

The best torture.
 
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Be nice to her. Be observant and help her in need.
This will tear her mind apart.

The best torture.

I like your advice, but it won't work.

Conservatives are asymmetric in their approach. You have to be good to them, when they are being bad to you, it's for your own good.

It won't work.

Beyond a point, her parents have to intervene, and have to tell the school management that this kind of pressure is not wanted, and not supported by her parents. There will be some temporary tension, but medium-term, things will improve.
 
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Hi ,
I belong to a conservative area and I study in a Co education education institute and here's a female Teacger that keeps eyeing on me because of my appearance . All other girls wear hijab or daupatta but I don't wear it in class and I always come there with open hair and little to good makeup . Other than that , I donot have any flirting or unprofessional attitude to male students or teachers , I'm the most outspoken about my views in class , always doing my assignment on time nd I'm regular too .. but this teacher's stares and judgements are bothering me . She always find chance to give lecture on hijab and point on me that I donot wear hijab and always looking at me with dubious eyes when I'm on phone .
Once I told her in the face that my not doing hijab has nothing to do with my education and for me , religion is my personal matter . But she is still keeping pointing . I hate this all . I don't want to be disrespectful to her , I don't like this pin pointing . What to do .

you are what you wear and what you say Hijab is not only for you its for the people who looking at you people are judgmental why giving them excuse its a good thing to do hijab why not accept it instead of letting people judge you for what you have and what you dont.
 
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I don't know why women like her can't see gurls enjoying their youth and life .
Because they have done some crazy stuff in their youth which they don't want next generation to follow. From my experience, the most conservative hot heads did some crazy stuff during their early twenties and teens.

@ topic, reminds of my experience in dars. I hated skull cap but forced to wear it, I tried to be a revolutionary but was shot down:D. If you have no support from your mates, it's almost difficult to stay like that. So, I'm not giving any advice. Do as you deem fit, the scenario.
 
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You are what you are, don't change yourself for anyone, ever!
 
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Because they have done some crazy stuff in their youth which they don't want next generation to follow. From my experience, the most conservative hot heads did some crazy stuff during their early twenties and teens.

@ topic, reminds of my experience in dars. I hated skull cap but forced to wear it, I tried to be a revolutionary but was shot down:D. If you have no support from your mates, it's almost difficult to stay like that. So, I'm not giving any advice. Do as you deem fit, the scenario.
I didn't like skull cap, but I thought wearing handkerchief was badass.
So I had no problems. : D

Well, actually it wasn't compulsory in class. Only when we went to pray.
 
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you are what you wear and what you say Hijab is not only for you its for the people who looking at you people are judgmental why giving them excuse its a good thing to do hijab why not accept it instead of letting people judge you for what you have and what you dont.

Sorry I can't sacrifice my personality nd be submissive to such people's demands .

I don't wanna do hijab cause I don't feel comfortable , I don't wanna waste my youth in covered clothes .
 
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Hi ,
I belong to a conservative area and I study in a Co education education institute and here's a female Teacger that keeps eyeing on me because of my appearance . All other girls wear hijab or daupatta but I don't wear it in class and I always come there with open hair and little to good makeup . Other than that , I donot have any flirting or unprofessional attitude to male students or teachers , I'm the most outspoken about my views in class , always doing my assignment on time nd I'm regular too .. but this teacher's stares and judgements are bothering me . She always find chance to give lecture on hijab and point on me that I donot wear hijab and always looking at me with dubious eyes when I'm on phone .
Once I told her in the face that my not doing hijab has nothing to do with my education and for me , religion is my personal matter . But she is still keeping pointing . I hate this all . I don't want to be disrespectful to her , I don't like this pin pointing . What to do .
Simple just in class ask her that you are doing a test to see if Muslims really understand the basics of Islam. Asks her if she prays and then asks her what it means. I bet she doesn't know. Should destroy her bullshit. I do it all the time with guys with big beards and short trousers who think I am kafir because I don't have a beard and wear trousers. Islam is in the heart not the hijab and how many women stand at bus stops working the streets in burqas
 
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Hi ,
I belong to a conservative area and I study in a Co education education institute and here's a female Teacger that keeps eyeing on me because of my appearance . All other girls wear hijab or daupatta but I don't wear it in class and I always come there with open hair and little to good makeup . Other than that , I donot have any flirting or unprofessional attitude to male students or teachers , I'm the most outspoken about my views in class , always doing my assignment on time nd I'm regular too .. but this teacher's stares and judgements are bothering me . She always find chance to give lecture on hijab and point on me that I donot wear hijab and always looking at me with dubious eyes when I'm on phone .
Once I told her in the face that my not doing hijab has nothing to do with my education and for me , religion is my personal matter . But she is still keeping pointing . I hate this all . I don't want to be disrespectful to her , I don't like this pin pointing . What to do .

Respect her and dont need to say anything against her .Let her teach you .
But you are the one that takes decision .
Just keep silence and follow your own soul.
This one is tried and tested in my life .
 
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Sorry I can't sacrifice my personality nd be submissive to such people's demands .

I don't wanna do hijab cause I don't feel comfortable , I don't wanna waste my youth in covered clothes .
rejection is strong thing which allow in deen you to have. its not being comfortable its been whats right and wrong. i guess you know better than any man why women need to do hijab if you still dont care i Ask Allah give all of us hidiyat. (ameen)
 
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