Pakistan Should End Child Marriage

[AZ1]

This should leave to Alim and Islamic scholar of the society rather than us having less knowledge of the issue.

 

[Jaanbaz]

A large amount of Mullahs are pedophiles, they will keep bringing religion to satisfy their sickness. The clergy and their countless supporters in Pakistan go full retard whenever you threaten their male dominated system.

 

[Divergent]

Just because a girl or guy hits puberty doesn’t mean they’re ready for Marriage. Please accept that having crushes is part of growing up and normal - the focus should be on how to conduct their behaviour. 16 is when life starts

 

[DarkPrince]

16 is when life starts

No your life started when your mom got pregnant.

But thats the thing. Science and technology given us so much. It filled our life. If you look at human history. Men used to work at field or do sword fighting for resources. Women used to cook and took care of the children. Marriage was necessity back then.

I don't see the point why should people get married in today's modern world. Specially in first world countries. No wonder Europe has lowest fertility rate.

 

[That Guy]

Pakistan should also ban cousin marriages, but unfortunately, certain influential people will argue otherwise.

 

[Imad.Khan]

Do you people realise that puberty is the point at which the human body begins to change into that of an adult and is not actually that of an adult. It is possible for an 11 year old girl to get pregnant - ask any doctor the damage pregnancy and giving birth will do to a child of that age.

Child marriage is not a joke. You need to be mature to get married. Maturity is not having a period or getting a voluntary erection. This includes the physical and mental capacity of an adult, awareness and acceptance of responsibilities and the knowledge of all matters related to marriage - including how to raise a child, not just how to breed one.

I propose a novel solution.
1. Raise the marriage age to 18.
2. Malaysia has a pre marriage course. We should also introduce one. Anyone under 21 who wants to get married should be obliged to attend one AND pass an exam.
3. Anyone over 21 who wants to get married should only have to attend the course (its 2 days in Malaysia).

This was the concerns around physical and mental maturity are addressed.

The most logical post i have read so far.

I would like to add to the proposals

1. The age difference should not be more than 10 years for girls under 25yrs of age. (to prevent 60, 70, 80, or 90 yr old perverts marrying teenage girls)
2. Dowry system to be outlawed.
3. The Groom needs to bear all the expenses of a marriage.

Other people can add to this as well

 

[prashantazazel]

Pfft what tosh. At 16 it's hardly child marriage, the title makes it sound like Pakistan legalises paedophilia.

Anyway, I think marriage should be allowed the moment kids develop urges, and to facilitate this we need to teach kids to act mature at an earlier age, and stop letting them be giant babies till they hit 18.



Age of marriage has varied for different societies and times, back in the day marrying the moment you hit puberty was considered the norm, and even desirable in many cultures.

http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs364/en/

The maternal mortality rate for teenage pregnancies (15-19) is much higher than those in their early 20s.
Medically, your early 20s, like 20-24 is the ideal age for a healthy pregnancy.

 

[Divergent]

Pakistan should also ban cousin marriages, but unfortunately, certain influential people will argue otherwise.

Such as? And I don’t sit comfortably with cousin Marriages

 

[TheLahoriGuy]

The most logical post i have read so far.

I would like to add to the proposals

1. The age difference should not be more than 10 years for girls under 25yrs of age. (to prevent 60, 70, 80, or 90 yr old perverts marrying teenage girls)
2. Dowry system to be outlawed.
3. The Groom needs to bear all the expenses of a marriage.

Other people can add to this as well

I find it quite hilarious that most of our practices regarding marriage are actually the ones we used to share with India (pre-partition). Its ironic because as much as people hate India they don't realize that they share the same culture and social values.
Dowry and cousin marriages are Hindu practices yet there's no regulation around them.

 

[Mugwop]

In order to end it women have to be more rebellious.

 

[Divergent]

In order to end it women have to be more rebellious.

That makes them disobedient lol

 

[Zarvan]

Pakistan’s Senate chose to mark the United Nations International Day of the Girl Child this week in an unusual way: by rejecting a bill that would have raised the minimum age for girls to marry from 16 to 18. The grounds for rejection? Apparently the proposed amendment was “contrary to religious injunctions,” said the Senate Standing Committee on Interior.

The UN children’s fund says 21 percent of Pakistani girls are married by the age of 18, and 3 percent before 15. Child marriage tends to occur in the country’s most marginalized and vulnerable communities, and has devastating consequences. Children who marry find their childhoods cut short and their education abandoned, as girls take on housework and boys struggle to provide for families they are too young to have. Married children become parents too soon, and girls face serious health risks, including death, due to early pregnancy. Married girls are also at higher risk of domestic violence, including marital rape, than women who marry later.

So why is Pakistan dragging its feet? The current law sets the legal age of marriage at 16 for girls and 18 for boys, which violates Pakistan’s obligations under international law in two ways: first by permitting marriage too early, and secondly by setting different marriage ages for girls and boys. But even this law is rarely enforced, as the Pakistani courts often interpret Sharia (Islamic law) instead, which allows any girl who has gone through puberty to marry.

Some provincial governments have legislated on this issue to try to improve matters, setting higher minimum ages for marriage and harsher penalties for those who arrange or conduct child marriages. But Sharia law is still preferred by the Pakistani courts.

The Pakistani government needs to prohibit underage marriage, and remove the confusion between religious interpretations and federal and provincial laws. Pakistani girls need equality, decent education, and good health care. They don’t need husbands. On the International Day of the Girl, Pakistan’s parliament failed its girls once again.

Source: https://www.hrw.org/news/2017/10/12/pakistan-should-end-child-marriage

16 is enough age west can keep its definition of grown to itself we don't accept this and have rightly rejected.

 

[Divergent]

16 is enough age west can keep its definition of grown to itself we don't accept this and have rightly rejected.

Shut up and if 16 is the age then the CHILD has to undergo interviews separately that it’s on her own personal choice and permission.

 

[Zarvan]

Shut up and if 16 is the age then the CHILD has to undergo interviews separately that it’s on her own personal choice and permission.

Lady go study Islam no marriage can take place without girl consent

 

[Divergent]

Lady go study Islam no marriage can take place without girl consent

Well unfortunately child Marriages aren’t usually do with consent. They don’t even know what’s going on.