Agree wholeheartedly.
It is a human psyche problem that as leaders get distilled over to the top of power (through whatever process society has put into place for it)...the worst traits of human nature (this desire for undue conflict and hate of other) get concentrated in those echelons (either overtly or stealthily)....till sight is lost of the prevalence/relevance to the large body that they came from and supposed to be putting first. This seems to be problem whatever the political wing (left or right) or the entity (country etc) itself.
Unfortunately I do not see it changing, so we have to find ways to best mitigate and counter it with what we the laymen have.
I say each year december 25th - 30th, have a single cricket test match (or some combination of friendly competition of some sort) between India and Pakistan. If India wins, whole of Kashmir is governed by India that following year (or whatever political term length decided). If Pakistan wins, same policy for Pakistan. If its a draw, Kashmir governs itself for said period. This way people have some way to judge how all 3 options are for them (removed as much can be of the tensions and violence etc)...without anyone feeling they have conceded and lost face.
Have this as the policy till some percentile (say 75th) in socioeconomic development w.r.t the world is reached for all 3 parties...and then negotiation for a permanent concrete solution can be commenced at that stage if its desired at that point.
This will improve sports performance (sorely needed for all), create economic avenues (imagine the ratings and audience + tourism for it each year hah) and bring some semblance of peace and trust building....and can have agreement that Kashmir has its own separate parliament for its domestic/economic affairs.
Whole area is demilitarised and also have demilitarised zones across the border zones of both countries (i.e only small arms equipped border guards etc).
Its just one idea with a bit of offbeat humour but we need some unconventional solutions I feel lol. Also gives opportunity for a new simpler and more effective constitution for India in my opinion is long overdue (I don't know about what you think of Pakistan's).
But of course it wont happen, too much blood and face has been invested by all concerned. I suppose we just have to see out the status quo , however long it takes till its much less relevant.
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