Do I just represent the ‘honor’ of the men in my family?

[Dragon4]

-This is because women under "normal circumstances" are the objects of desire which are fought over (I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's biology for ya). Be it glaring, trying to make eye contact, or cringe worthy songs, those are just people trying to court those objects.

-The most common reason why women find it cringe worthy is because, women don't find these men as objects of desire (too poor/ not good looking/ dress bad etc.) . The moment a woman finds a man who is an object of desire for HER, doing THE EXACT SAME THING, that "EWWWWW" turns into "AWWWW" faster than a heart beat.

-Ironically enough, there are situations in which the guy is the object of desire (fame/ fortune/ good looks)... suddenly the girls and women who were finding guys cringe worthy convert into the same cringe worthy animals they complain to their girlfriends about;

-Oh and just in case you think it's just the celebs that get the attention, ask tall guys who hit the gym regularly or play some sport in their colleges and unis, they'll tell ya. At this point I think, its human craving to get attention, just that we call it cringe worthy, when it's not from someone we deem is "in our league" ...


Well that depends on the social acceptability of that particular setting, I've seen girls with T's and skinny jeans on (frowned upon in our culture), who attend parties with that clothing and as soon as the party is over, they go back to the "shareef shalwar kameez" before going home.

You'll see girls coming from conservative backgrounds, dress all up in their abayas taking them off once they get in to universities wearing dresses that are not so conservative. That's because on the road and in the home the social acceptability is different, in university, it's a different social acceptability altogether.

Missing green tick.

 

[lastofthepatriots]

Ooooh
Aj chai nahi pi nasha toota hay :-//


SKinny mein to nahi pehn sakta garmi ho ya sardi pata nahi kon mard isko pehn kar sakoon mahol mein reh sakta hay

It happens quite often in South Punjab whether they are skinny or not. All these people talking shit should go visit Multan/Bahawalpur and give it a try without sitting in their air conditioned rooms. Denim is not designed to have air flow.

 

[Musafir117]

Vs

I know who I'd pick.

It's hard to chose just coz of dress

@Zibago

 

[Zibago]

It happens quite often in South Punjab whether they are skinny or not. All these people talking shit should go visit Multan/Bahawalpur and give it a try without sitting in their air conditioned rooms. Denim is not designed to let have air flow.

AC to tha hi nahi ghar mein boss tab sirf lahori cooler sey guzara karna parta tha musibat nalkey mein pani bhi garam ata tha phir 1 bajay icecream khaney dor nikalna neem kay darakhton kay nichay nichay sey ho kar kiya yaad dila diya

 

[lastofthepatriots]

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@Zibago

Her jeans look like they took a tumble in the dumpster.

 

[Zibago]

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@Zibago

 

[Hell hound]

It happens quite often in South Punjab whether they are skinny or not. All these people talking shit should go visit Multan/Bahawalpur and give it a try without sitting in their air conditioned rooms. Denim is not designed to have air flow.

payan i too am from sadiqabad and i have nothing else in my wardrobe except jeans.

 

[Sheikh Rauf]

Do I just represent the ‘honor’ of the men in my family?
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Asma Razzaq |

Do not go to the park as your brother would not like it, this is not America’, my mother scolded me when I insisted on visiting a nearby park. ‘Your elder sisters have never been stubborn like you. They’ve always done whatever their brothers or husbands asked them to do’, my mother was very angry. ‘I want to go there’, I murmured but my mother’s reaction was so annoying that I had to follow her instructions immediately.

Let me introduce myself. My name is Asma and I have recently come back from the U.S. after completing my one and a half year-long fellowship program with a Washington-based non-profit, Atlas Corps.

My mother’s reaction unintentionally dragged me towards my days spent in the United States during the fellowship program. There, I was living in an apartment in Washington D.C. near the Water Front area while the Potomac River was just in front of my house.

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What is wrong about going to a park?
Am I just a symbol of honour and respect for the male members of my family while they do not care whether I am happy with this discriminatory behaviour or not?

When my mother stopped me from going out, all of the sudden I felt as I am in a prison where I have to seek the permission of the male members of my family whenever I need to go out of the house. ‘What is so bad about going to the public park?’ I questioned my mother. But instead of my mother, my brother said quickly, ‘I think you forgot that you are in Pakistan now, where the girls have to bear insulting comments, attitude and harassment when they go out. Being a brother, I cannot tolerate that my sister is being victimised by the dirty vulgar comments when she goes out’, my brother almost yelled at me.

Now it has been two months in Pakistan for me. and during these 60 days, every day I question myself, why I am here and why I came back to a place where I am not being treated as a human being made of flesh and bones… Am I just a symbol of honor and respect for the male members of my family while they do not care whether I am happy with this discriminatory behavior or not? Frankly speaking, I have become almost a mental patient now.

Read more: Continuing scourge of honor killing in Pakistan

‘I am not a human being now. I am just a puppet. Maybe Asma is no more alive’…

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Do I just represent the ‘honor’ of the men in my family?

its a drug once you get high you wanna stay high as soon as the dose goes down you wanted it. There is a reason they are stopping you instead of deying to go to park understand the reason your brother is giving you, Your problem is that you expose to the society where things have done differently and unfortunately you are the only one in family maybe or your neighbour or in Park.
try to limit your dreams then you fly smoothly its a rough world.

 

[lastofthepatriots]

That's another thing I can't stand. People that buy ripped up jeans.

 

[I.R.A]

its a drug once you get high you wanna stay high as soon as the dose goes down you wanted it. There is a reason they are stopping you instead of deying to go to park understand the reason your brother is giving you, Your problem is that you expose to the society where things have done differently and unfortunately you are the only one in family maybe or your neighbour or in Park.
try to limit your dreams then you fly smoothly its a rough world.

Send the girls to Karate schools, let them learn self defense ............ there is always a solution to the problem.

 

[lastofthepatriots]

payan i too am from sadiqabad and i have nothing else in my wardrobe except jeans.

Yaar tu te paida hi jeans ch Hoya si.

 

[CriticalThought]

Send the girls to Karate schools, let them learn self defense ............ there is always a solution to the problem.

That's not a solution because guys will start learning Karate as well.

 

[Zibago]

That's another thing I can't stand. People that buy ripped up jeans.

Once my super lazy cousin wore his old extremely damaged pair of jeans to uni cuz he was too lazy to wash the other everyone was asking him where did he buy them from

 

[Divergent]

That's another thing I can't stand. People that buy ripped up jeans.

 

[lastofthepatriots]

Once my super lazy cousin wore his old extremely damaged pair of jeans to uni cuz he was too lazy to wash the other everyone was asking him where did he buy them from

Most Pakistanis that wear western clothes usually get them from landa. Or at least it looks like it.