• Saturday, December 16, 2017

How Pakistani-Americans are entering interfaith and interracial marriages — and making them work

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  1. lastofthepatriots

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    I blame your parents for having to put you through this identity crisis. I feel bad for you, because you truly don't belong to anyone. I think you should try your hand at Australian identity.
     
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    Actually, one of my closest friends was invited to the marriage of his friend's daughter, a Gujarati Hindu girl, with a Pakistani Muslim boy in California.
     
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    I apologize if I have offended you in any sort of way. I am also half Pakistani so i know how you feel exactly
     
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    Was the guy Awan?

    My cousin is half Ukranian half Pakistani and he's always been really confused. He prefers Ukranian women, but Pakistani food. Quite the catch 22 for him.
     
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    You know what? I honestly did not have any nefarious designs when I asked him those questions on a different thread. I mean, even I am only Awan from my father's side, so I was curious to know how this other mixed couple came together.

    But yeah, you are right. Some Awans do not even give their daughters to Rajputs, only Syeds and other chiefs. They are very picky.

    Lol no. I am just playing with him. Haven't even moved in for the kill yet. :sarcastic:
     
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    No doubt.
    But if it is closeted racism, how did you come about uncovering it? Wouldn't that negate the whole idea of it if it is overt?
    Also, the closeted racists you speak of usually confide within their own community. I'm yet to come across an Indian who hates Pakistanis with the passion you speak of.
    And mind you I've been living in Manhattan for the past 12 years and am yet to witness this.

    Not saying your experience isn't true, I'm sure there are bad apples on both sides of the fence. My experience with Pakistanis has been excellent. Not sure why you've had this problem.

    Oh well..C'est La Vie!
     
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    @Krishnan

    I will leave you alone if you tell me the village name in Pindi.
     
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    No idea. He was leading up to this to explain the kind of family the father had been in, to justify his being invited to join insaniyat.



    Picks well, doesn't he?
     
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    It's the tribal mindset that precedes even religion in certain areas of Pakistan.
     
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    ...mais ce n'est pas la guerre!

    Ce qu'elle veut dire, c'est que quand vous ne regardez pas, ils vous font des grimaces.
     
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    My experience with Indians in NYC is that Sikhs, Nepalis, Bengalis and a lot of South Indians are ok. The rest, not so much.
     
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    It's only advised in Islamic culture to not marry with people of no faith!
     
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    haha...Its the proverbial tree in the woods then!
     
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    In fact, I wanted to add this bit to the note on caste I was writing for one of your compatriots. I never finished it, but in the East and in the South, this is how tribes were absorbed; they each formed a separate caste, what they called endogamous castes, meaning they would only marry within themselves. If you look at south Indian 'castes', other than the Brahmins, the whole pack of them are distinct from the others, even their food and culture is often distinct. So, too, in Bengal; you can easily make out who have been absorbed as entire tribes and converted into a caste.

    This whole business, as you said of a different society, was orthogonal to religion. It precedes religion in almost all areas of India.

    In the Muzaffarnagar riots in western UP, the Jats attacked the Muslims, but left the Ranghars alone.
     
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    Where are all these race wars happening in NYC?!!
    Have I been living under a rock?! lol